Do you avoid children?

Do any of the pedophiles on here make a rule of avoiding children if possible? I know that it's wisest to not have relations with kids but I mean trying to weasel out of any situation where there may be children like parties or getting up to leave of some kids sit down near you.

Alternatively, does anyone intentionally try to be around children?

I don't have any children in my life but I think it would be nice to be able to have an amiable relationship with a cute girl. You know, just someone you meet in passing due to a mutual acquaintance.

There's something magical in the summers, sitting in the park with my book while the children do their thing nearby. I don't go to the park for this reason it's just a happy bonus. I think I'd enjoy it even if I wasn't a pedophile.

I used to, now I don't do that anymore because I learned to know that being attracted to children is no different for me than being attracted to adults - what I mean is, it doesn't automatically make me prone to being a child molester, just as much as being attracted to adult women doesn't make me prone to be a women rapist. I have no problems being around children. I get no uncontrollable urges. Nothing like that. This is why I see no reason to avoid them.

ElKahn wrote:I used to, now I don't do that anymore because I learned to know that being attracted to children is no different for me than being attracted to adults - what I mean is, it doesn't automatically make me prone to being a child molester, just as much as being attracted to adult women doesn't make me prone to be a women rapist. I have no problems being around children. I get no uncontrollable urges. Nothing like that. This is why I see no reason to avoid them.

These are almost the same things I would have said. The comparison between pedophiles and the so-called "normal" adult-oriented people is particularly apt: a certain sexuality does not make anyone a sex criminal.

Should I avoid adult women? I find them wildly attractive, should I be afraid I might molest them if I'm alone with them?

I'm not trying to step on any toes. I am a pedophile too. But when pedophiles make statements like "if someone is attracted to adult women, does that mean they are bound to be a rapist of adult women". Obviously no. And the same does apply to us. But I feel like a lot of pedos say that as if the average person wouldn't have a reason to be concerned about leaving their kids around a pedophile. It is illegal for us to act out on our desires. For some pedos, the frustration that accumulates from being forced to suppress that desire might be too much to deal with, and that is unfortunately when we see children getting molested. One knows themselves and their self control best, but you can't assume that just because you have good self control that all pedophiles are the same way.

mazeoflife wrote:I'm not trying to step on any toes. I am a pedophile too. But when pedophiles make statements like "if someone is attracted to adult women, does that mean they are bound to be a rapist of adult women". Obviously no. And the same does apply to us. But

Following something like that up with a "but" never ends well.

mazeoflife wrote:I feel like a lot of pedos say that as if the average person wouldn't have a reason to be concerned about leaving their kids around a pedophile.

Of course the average person has reason to be concerned. That reason is that we're being regularly slandered. The average person is horrifically misinformed about us, and that misinformation is calculated to cause precisely this reaction.

mazeoflife wrote:It is illegal for us to act out on our desires. For some pedos, the frustration that accumulates from being forced to suppress that desire might be too much to deal with, and that is unfortunately when we see children getting molested.

That is not when we see children getting molested. We see children molested far more often by situational offenders, adult attracted individuals with poor impulse control and/or underdeveloped empathy than we ever see it as a result of sexually frustrated pedophiles.

mazeoflife wrote:One knows themselves and their self control best, but you can't assume that just because you have good self control that all pedophiles are the same way.

Statistically, pedophiles have far better self-control as it relates to not molesting children than nonpedophiles have.

YRR I've read all the stats. I know. I'm sure I've read it in 50 other posts you've made. I'm not saying anything about any pedophiles ability to maintain self control.

I'm just pointing out that at least in my opinion, it isn't really a good comparison to make because of the sexual frustration factor. I think its a pretty big factor to consider when an adult attracted person can act out their sexual desires legally vs a pedo who would be put in jail. The factor makes it an inadequate comparison in my opinion.

Adult attracted individuals are tossed in jail when they have sex with someone without their consent too. If an adult attracted individual were to be unable to find a consenting partner (and there are many who can't), I don't see even the slightest difference.

I generally ask adult attracted individuals who use this "sexual frustration" argument how long it would take them, denied consenting partners, before they would resort to rape. I can't recall a single one of them answering that question with anything other than "I never would".

I mean even then if they are unable to find a partner to consent, they're gonna go for prostitution before rape.

Prostitutes are allowed to say "no" too.