by Myotherlife » Thu Nov 20, 2014 6:53 pm
I would definitely NOT reveal any intimate details about your sexuality to anyone besides a sex-positive therapist or a friend or relative in whom you have complete trust. I would especially not reveal anything of this nature to an abusive parent.
Since I was about 13, I have been daily plagued with urophilia and copraphilia with elements of ABDL, not to mention full time wearing of women's panties and using feminine incontinence pads. When I was 19, my mother discovered a very dirty pair of underpants in one of my dresser drawers. She didn't say a thing to me, and may never have told my father, but one direct result was that I was mortified, and within a couple of weeks had joined the navy and was in boot camp.
Not until I was in my 40s did I reveal my fetish for panties both to my wife and to a psychologist. Actually, my wife mentioned my panties to the psychologist, in a couples sessions. I might have been "re-mortified," I knew that my wife was OK with my panty wearing, and I liked and trusted the psychologist.
It took another 25 years for me to tell a psychologist about my other fetishes and paraphilias, and soon after that I told my wife about them (once again, she was not bothered at all by the fetishes and paraphilias, but was concerned about the stress I have gone through throughout my life.
Life has been better for me since revealing my secrets, but only because I revealed them to people I respected, or in the case of my wife a person who I loved and respected, and have always had love and respect from her in turn. If I had ever told my mom more about my sexuality, it would simply have hurt her because she would have blamed herself, and possibly started praying for my soul. My dad? I would have either gotten a stern sermon from him. He might even have disinherited me, not that I would have lost much! He came close to disinheriting my sister because she had an affair. Neither my mother nor my father had any understanding of human sexuality, and both of them were psychologically abusive, my mother in a way that failed to teach me that just being her "good boy" would not do much to prepare me for life, my father in a way that taught me that he was superior to me in all ways. Both my parents believed that any kind of sex outside of married sex in the missionary position was sinful.
Bottom line: It's vital to keep sexual secrets to yourself, sharing them only in forums like with or with people you implicitly trust.
Other
-- Thu Nov 20, 2014 6:53 pm --
I would definitely NOT reveal any intimate details about your sexuality to anyone besides a sex-positive therapist or a friend or relative in whom you have complete trust. I would especially not reveal anything of this nature to an abusive parent.
Since I was about 13, I have been daily plagued with urophilia and copraphilia with elements of ABDL, not to mention full time wearing of women's panties and using feminine incontinence pads. When I was 19, my mother discovered a very dirty pair of underpants in one of my dresser drawers. She didn't say a thing to me, and may never have told my father, but one direct result was that I was mortified, and within a couple of weeks had joined the navy and was in boot camp.
Not until I was in my 40s did I reveal my fetish for panties both to my wife and to a psychologist. Actually, my wife mentioned my panties to the psychologist, in a couples sessions. I might have been "re-mortified," I knew that my wife was OK with my panty wearing, and I liked and trusted the psychologist.
It took another 25 years for me to tell a psychologist about my other fetishes and paraphilias, and soon after that I told my wife about them (once again, she was not bothered at all by the fetishes and paraphilias, but was concerned about the stress I have gone through throughout my life.
Life has been better for me since revealing my secrets, but only because I revealed them to people I respected, or in the case of my wife a person who I loved and respected, and have always had love and respect from her in turn. If I had ever told my mom more about my sexuality, it would simply have hurt her because she would have blamed herself, and possibly started praying for my soul. My dad? I would have either gotten a stern sermon from him. He might even have disinherited me, not that I would have lost much! He came close to disinheriting my sister because she had an affair. Neither my mother nor my father had any understanding of human sexuality, and both of them were psychologically abusive, my mother in a way that failed to teach me that just being her "good boy" would not do much to prepare me for life, my father in a way that taught me that he was superior to me in all ways. Both my parents believed that any kind of sex outside of married sex in the missionary position was sinful.
Bottom line: It's vital to keep sexual secrets to yourself, sharing them only in forums like with or with people you implicitly trust.
Other
I do worry about my future husband not understanding. That's a huge fear of mine. 
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