incest taboo

I know there are people out there who had sex within their family and was not abused or forced into it. Actually enjoyed it with all parties consent. I was 7 or 8 years old when my sister(same age as me) and i started fooling around and that continued until i was 18 and left for the Navy. She wanted me to take her cherry and told me where to be that night(babysitters) and when etc. totally in control, i was a bit worried. We ,d never done that; i,d never been that far with anyone else. I won,t go into details here but we did that and it was just the beginning. We,r fine today about it. what i wanted to say is we allways enjoyed sex together and viewed it as a learning experience growing up. Of course we knew it was wrong and knowing that made it somehow even better. But one other thing i want to say bout this and i,ll get off. I am married now with 2 grown up girls and no i never touched them. That would ruin their lives and mine and i care too much about them. But oh yes that crossed my mind. did,nt let it get no farther than that though. anyways, point is this ; once you,ve had sex with anyone in you,r family, incest takes you by the heart and it is so hard to root it out. Takes a lot of love. So weather you,r abused or consented and enjoyed, incest can really warp you views on family and sex. not so easy to change that.

I'm wondering how you and your sister got the idea to have sex at 7 or 8 years old?

In my observation, the actual underlying problem the vast majority of the time when young children sexually engage each other, is that somewhere in the story, they had to be introduced to such explicit material or abuse from an adult.

Young children, such at the ages to give, do not think about sexual intercourse, unless such ideas are introduced to them. Neither of you were even close to puberty.

So I think sometimes feelings of confusion and shame seem to come from Source A, which is known, when they actually come from Source B, which is unknown to the person in adulthood (repressed memories and such).

In my personal opinion, I don't think the issue is that you and your sister sexually engaged each other at ages 7 or 8. I think the issue is that at 7 and 8 years old, the two of you were familiar with ideas of sexual intercourse.

How would you have known about that?

lawrence1960 wrote:I know there are people out there who had sex within their family and was not abused or forced into it. Actually enjoyed it with all parties consent. I was 7 or 8 years old when my sister(same age as me) and i started fooling around and that continued until i was 18 and left for the Navy. She wanted me to take her cherry and told me where to be that night(babysitters) and when etc. totally in control, i was a bit worried. We ,d never done that; i,d never been that far with anyone else. I won,t go into details here but we did that and it was just the beginning. We,r fine today about it. what i wanted to say is we allways enjoyed sex together and viewed it as a learning experience growing up. Of course we knew it was wrong and knowing that made it somehow even better. But one other thing i want to say bout this and i,ll get off. I am married now with 2 grown up girls and no i never touched them. That would ruin their lives and mine and i care too much about them. But oh yes that crossed my mind. did,nt let it get no farther than that though. anyways, point is this ; once you,ve had sex with anyone in you,r family, incest takes you by the heart and it is so hard to root it out. Takes a lot of love. So weather you,r abused or consented and enjoyed, incest can really warp you views on family and sex. not so easy to change that.

I agree with CopperMoon in that you and sister must have been introduced to that activity Somehow. You both were too young to get to know that act on your own. You said that sister was same age !!! are you twins?

I suggest you search for my story in my old threads and posts. You will find useful and very good advice there from the contributors.

When i was 9, me and my friend(we're both girls) used to fool around with each other. Also i had a couple experiences with my sister.

I have no clue where we got the idea from. I was never sexually abused nor do i remember being exposed to sex in any other way at that age.

Dita wrote:When i was 9, me and my friend(we're both girls) used to fool around with each other. Also i had a couple experiences with my sister.

I have no clue where we got the idea from. I was never sexually abused nor do i remember being exposed to sex in any other way at that age.

Lawrence1960, the original poster, has got only 2 posts. In the other post he wrote:

by lawrence1960 » Wed Oct 08, 2014 11:57 am

It,s been my experience that children repeat what they see at home ; either from watching their parents or older siblings examples. my advise is just from a practiple standpoint. teach your younger chilldren this is wrong and why. thats adult behavior and they are way too younge for that. And boys doing that to boys in the family? That,s a guilt complex you don,t want them growing up with. ok and now you have to ask yourself just where did the oldest boy learn that? From an adult? If not with you where does he live and with who? Try to seperate them at critical times so the temptation to repeat this is not so much on their shoulders. Do they share the bathroom together? maybe thats not such a good idea for awhile. Sleep together? Seperate them and especially from the boy who initiated this if possible when you are not there to supervise. all this and yes maybe someone to tallk to for you and your children hellps. But their going to ask, was the oldest boy molested by someone? perhaps an adullt? when that happens it,s common for the victum to repeat that with others in or out of the familly. tough questions i know but if thats true about the oldest being abused then a responcible adult needs to put a sudden stop to that. protect you,r children. that often means reporting the offender".

Very young children don't need to be introduced to sex by an outside party to show a curiosity in it. Lot's of kids 'fool around' as young as 7 or 8, though I would say more out of curiosity than sexual desire. If it's not for sexual desire, some kids do it with their brothers and sisters. However, your sister wanting you to take her virginity is very odd. I agree that incest would distort ones views of family, especially with the revulsion with which it's discussed with by society.

no we were not twins, just barely a year apart. i do,nt remember much but my stepfather had something to to with us having sex from the beginning. but he was gone forever after just a short time married to my mom. i just remember we allways had code words for what we wanted to do; started off we would say do you wanna play house?" and then later just "do you wanna do something?" yes i know when it started because my real father died at 7 years old and we began then after. my sister was never shy about what she wanted. befor puberty, which means befor i was able to produce sperm or anything we knew what felt deliciously good and would touch and knew about oral sex. the 1rst time i came in my sisters mouth she was,nt expecting that and was mad as hell at me for not warning her, i forgot. she is the one taught me about everything to a point. yes i was told to come by her babysitting job late and she would have a nice surprise and she did. she never said the words , just after fooling around put me inside, told me to push, she said she wanted me to come inside her. her words, i did as i was told. we were caught in the act by my mother years later and i took all the blame for that. told my mom it was all my idea etc. because i cared about my sister and wanted to protect her from every one. miss her, she lives accross the world from me now but nothing has changed as far as our feelings there. we allways told each other we were just practicing for when we were older and would marry someone else in the beginning. other then that we were somewhat normal brother and sister. we had something special and i do,nt feel ashamed or regret it at all. but i know i should huh.