Searching for utopia?

I have belonged to a couple of busy on-line groups where it was possible to safely discuss paraphilias and fetishes with other people:

• Panties for Men, connected with a company that sold custom-made panties, provided my first communication with other men who shared my sexual proclivities and my sexual angst. The company apparently failed because of relationship problems between its principals.

• The Experience Project, whose stated purpose was to be "…a comfortable and supportive place for individuals to share and connect with others around the things that matter to them most." A fine goal, and I was able to share thoughts and feelings about sexuality with several men and woman who became good on-line friends. We felt free to discuss our sexual desires and concerns openly, and I was pleased to be able to offer advice that was welcome to some of them. I turn, I learned a lot from them. Then one day the censors arrived and started deleting threads which they deemed to be "titillating". We were no longer free to pursue the same types of discussions (even though the company allowed advertising from companies that offered nothing but "titillation"!)

I would like to know if any members of Psychforums know of any forums besides this one (which is hardly a busy place) that I might try. I was a member of FetLife for a short time, but the membership seemed to be composed almost entirely of BDSMers, which doesn't interest me. Any other suggestions would be welcome.

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