Coping ::

I am asking this question as given my situation of being bed bound with next to no social life other than over the net I have found that some coping techniques tend not to work for and I am wondering how does you cope and manage your thoughts, what works for you. I am in contact with the Stop it Now support group in the UK but some of the ways they suggest just simply do not work for me.

I am getting a lot better now thanks to the wonderful people on this forum who I cannot thank enough and maybe I am being more cautious than I perhaps need to be but for once I feel in a safer place and I do not want to go back to that painful dark place. So how do you manage?

Tulula.

I find creative writing to be a great coping mechanism.

It's just like reading, in that you can immerse yourself in a different reality, but it differs in that you get to decide what happens.

Hi there !

I also like to read and do gardening. listening to music is my favourite oh and watching youtube pranks. lol

how about going to a college to do a course you're interested in?

hope I helped

Thank you both for the replies, I am struggling a bit to find areas I can put myself in due to my situation. Unfortunately Ocdisnotme I am now an ex graphic/web designer with over 5 years at college but I suffer from Parkinsons disease and I am now bed bound and my laptop is my source of a social life. I have to admit youtube pranks are great and I watch many other video's on there but some days attention slips as there gets a point where I feel the sense of "seen that" and that is when my mind starts shifting back to where I don't want to be.

It is my own doing as for years I have used sex and porn as way of making myself feel good about things so when things begin to low down and become dull my brains immediate response is to view porn which the backfires on me because my sexual interest is pretty extreme, legal but extreme and then thoughts and fantasies, memories start flooding back and I find it hard to shake those off.

The helpline I sure suggests like going out for a walk to get away from the computer but thats not exactly possible with me. I like the idea of creative writing though, It would give something to focus in away from the web at least whilst listening to music or a movie.

Again thank you both

Tulula.

Hi Tulula,

I can only imagine how you feel. My partner has multiple sclerosis, and I am his carer. We are both home, living off welfare which is not enough

We are both on our laptops, bored and eating a lot. we watch a lot of pranks and murder mysteries,lol

but we have made a promise to get off the couch and do something productive.

my partner is enrolling in an online course where he can study from home and he will also do some volunteering work.

I am hoping to go back to uni .

when youre at home, you find yourself 'googling' or overeating and it gets really comfy but is unhealthy

so Tulula, baby steps. Bit by bit, find yourself something you're interested in and persue it. You have a lot to offer society and being a graphic designer , maybe you can work from home?

chat soon

I suppose you are right, small steps.. You are most right about eating and just random googling, one of my fave past times is taking two words into google and see what pops up, you would be surprised about the random things you see, Keeps me entertained a bit

I would love to go back to graphic design, it was the only thing in my life I was genuinely proud of, especially seeing as I failed highschool. I have always wanted to do volunteer work, maybe thats it, o volunteer graphic work, leaflets and posters, that kind of thing

I know its hard being a carer, its not a 9-5 job that most people assume it is and its incredibly hard. It pains me when I see my mum not getting sleep, forgoing all the things she wants to do to look after me. It takes a strong person to be a carer. I wish you both the very best and I do hope you get to go back to uni some time.

Talk soon.
Tulula.