Question but no answer ::

This is going to sound of a bit unusual request but for years now I have been asking myself a question that I have never been able to get or find an answer to and part of me knows that I might not or Im not meant to know but it has always wondered to me why I can, am and will be attracted to children.

Its not an easy answer (for me at least) but I was wondering to anyone reading if you know you are attracted to children (age and gender are not needed). Is it the connection you can share with a child, the comfort that they can share and give or is it simply something else, maybe you do not know either.

Im curious because I have never been able to pin it down for myself. Id like to think I cannot find the answer because its not something that can be easily explained. (This may make no sense, I am half asleep)

Tulula.

P.s. I hope everyone is doing ok this evening and keeping strong.

As much as I want to find an answer, and as appealing as some of the theories I've come up with are, there really is no way of knowing for sure. It's just like asking ourselves why we prefer the gender that we do.

That said, I suspect that my own pedophilia has something to do with my mind conflating paternal urges with romantic ones and by association, sexual ones. I've read that romance in itself is a test of how caring and compassionate of a parent your mate will be towards their future children, and that female faces have evolved over the years to retain more and more childish features in an effort to appeal to men who feel more compassion and love for children.

I think I find girls physically attractive from a young age because my properly hormones kicked in whilst I was still at primary school. The 'normal' male friends I've had over the years mostly started puberty properly from around 11-14 upwards, and the lower end of their (physical) attraction to girls has been broadly in line with high school age.

I also think that if you are strongly physically attracted to children then it makes sense that you could develop romantic feelings for a child as well. After all, children can be cute and lovely. Personally, I'm non-exclusive, though I find younger girls far more physically attractive. I have fallen in love twice, both times with adult women who had child-like personality traits. Whenever I get to spend time with girls to whom I am attracted and who have my preferred personality type (confident, bubbly, playful, a little bratty even) then I really sense my true sexuality. I spent time with a girl yesterday. Her parents were not around, so I didn't need to feel inhibited and was just myself. There was no need to worry about my behaviour or words being misconstrued as sexually motivated by hawkish onlookers, which meant that the whole unwholesome subject of sexual motivations simply evaporated, resulting in the experience being solely about two individuals enjoying each other's company. And it was delightful, we had great fun together. I feel a bit down today because it's in such moments that I realise I am wired to fall in love with children. And that certainly isn't because I don't like adults, or am maladjusted in some way. I love some adults, just as I don't like all children. I do find, though, that once people become sexually aware they start to lose their playful spirit and become more self-conscious, more insecure, more vain. Where this is noticeable or pronounced in a woman, I always feel that there's no way I could ever have any meaningful feelings towards her.

ctithe wrote:I spent time with a girl yesterday. Her parents were not around, so I didn't need to feel inhibited and was just myself. There was no need to worry about my behaviour or words being misconstrued as sexually motivated by hawkish onlookers, which meant that the whole unwholesome subject of sexual motivations simply evaporated, resulting in the experience being solely about two individuals enjoying each other's company. And it was delightful, we had great fun together.

That sounds like such a lovely day I have not had a day like that in many many years and I miss it deeply because it is just wonderful. It is the realization that crashes you back down to reality and it is sad it does that because it takes away from the lovely time you had but you are so right about becoming more self-conscious and insecure, its just yet another part the rocky road we are on. Try to keep you head up .

sprooglestrewft wrote:I've read that romance in itself is a test of how caring and compassionate of a parent your mate will be towards their future children, and that female faces have evolved over the years to retain more and more childish features in an effort to appeal to men who feel more compassion and love for children.

That does not surprise me that much, a lot of aspects as human is primal at the core so it only makes sense. A lot of the time for me I find that I connect better with children than adults and as stupid as this may sound I feel that children just understand me more as a person (its hard to put into words). I have found myself romantically linked with children before just as I can with adults so the above to me is a very interesting read and could quite possibly be a reason for my attraction.

Thank you both for replying It has always escaped me to why but you are right Sproogle, it is a mystery such as why we are attracted to the genders we are .

Tulula.

Tululaboo wrote:That sounds like such a lovely day

It was the best. My only regret is that I might never see her again. Oh well. *sigh" I certainly behaved appropriately, and had no intentions of doing otherwise. Afterwards I walked her home because I wanted her to be safe. Is there some irony in that?

ctithe wrote:It was the best. My only regret is that I might never see her again. Oh well. *sigh" I certainly behaved appropriately, and had no intentions of doing otherwise. Afterwards I walked her home because I wanted her to be safe. Is there some irony in that?

Thats so sad my heart goes out to you and no I don't see no irony there because you are self controlled with no intention of ever doing anything, there is a difference between those that do and those that don't.

Tulula.