My teen neighbors

I haven't been here long, but I've sensed this forum is a pretty good place for people to vent their frustrations from being unable to pursue their attractions. I'm a male in my thirties and my frustration just so happens to be a pair of teen sisters that live across the street from me. One 16, the other is 17. I am friends with both of them.

The 16 year old is ridiculously gorgeous. Just one of those girls who looks sexy in everything she wears and you really want to nail. She's always outside shooting hoops, and sometimes I will play an innocent yet competitive game of h-o-r-s-e or 21 with her. The exercise alone is enough to get my blood pumping, but I will come in after a game and just be crazy turned on and I have to relieve myself.

The 17 year old is a totally different story. Despite being only a year older, she is much more independent and womanly. She's not quite as pornstar hot as her sister, but she is even more attractive because there's a connection there. Anyone who'd see us interact with each other and the way we look at one another would say the same thing. She was the one to approach me talking about how much she loves my car, but now she couldn't care less about it and we will talk outside for hours. We always touch each other, and we will hug each other really tight, moan, and say I've missed you. We want to kiss so badly, but I think we both know that's the point of no return.

Ugh, I just want her. Both of them, but for different reasons and I can't have either of them. I often fantasize about having a threesome with both of them, and them participating with each other.

I don't feel guilty about the attraction or all the naughty thoughts I have about them, but it's so frustrating. I'm well aware of the biological aspect of these attractions and consent laws where I live. I have BPD as well, so the connection with the 17 year old is felt very strongly. I yearn to be alone with her.

Anywho. Thanks for reading /rant

Hello
I was wondering what the reason you can't have either of them was?
Is 18/21 the age of consent in your country?
Personally I would say that a mature 17yr old is perfectly able to have a relationship or even just experimentation with an older man. When I was that age I dated a guy of 32 but then, 16 is the consent age here and I had alaready moved out.

MiaMew wrote:Hello
I was wondering what the reason you can't have either of them was?
Is 18/21 the age of consent in your country?
Personally I would say that a mature 17yr old is perfectly able to have a relationship or even just experimentation with an older man. When I was that age I dated a guy of 32 but then, 16 is the consent age here and I had alaready moved out.

Hi, and thanks for your reply.

Age of consent varies by state here in the US. Where I live the age of consent is 17. So that definitely excludes the 16 year old. For some reason though I won't allow myself to pursue the older sister until she either finishes school, or drops out (she's not doing well in her classes at all). She is just so eager to begin her adult life, but I have encouraged her to stay in school despite how badly I want to f**k her and be with her. I also know that I will very quickly fall for her if we did begin relations and that scares me, but that just keeps me from initiating anything.

I actually think it is quite noble that you are trying to help her and keep her in school.
But, to play devils advocate, she is a human being with her own emotions and urges. She might want to go out with you. She might even ask you one day. And if she does, please consider her feelings.
You seem to have quite good control and want to be a good guy. Just don't let her hit on you when drunk or just have meaningless sex. If she is a virgin she won't know what sex will mean to her yet and some girls have the mind set for no-strings attached naughty fun but other girls can't disconnect sex and love.

Thanks for recognizing that. Her well-being is important to me. I do care about her. It's not entirely lust with the 17 year old like it is with her younger sister. I just want to have sex with her, and I am far less considerate of her feelings.

My control only goes so far. I am ok with not advancing myself, but if either of them initiated, there would be little I could do to turn them down, and that's WITHOUT alcohol. I am extremely impulsive when it comes to sex, so I need to avoid the situations that can set them off. I wouldn't want a situation involving alcohol because I would feel like I was taking advantage of them, even if I was the only one inebriated.

I doubt the 17 year old is a virgin, but it is possible. I do know I would like to help her with her sexual awakening, which very likely has yet to happen regardless if she is a virgin or not. Sex with her would be far from meaningless. I know it would be really intimate, and I would strive to be that guy that no other man will ever be able to live up to. She would actually probably have a better chance at the disconnect of sex/love than me. The strictly naughty fun is what I want with her younger sister.

there is nothing wrong whatsoever in you wanting to pursue a relationship with her, the age gap is not that great after all, my own girlfriend is 22 years younger than me and we have no problems either socially or with each other.

However, I am lucky that there is not just a physical attraction with my own girlfriend, we genuinely are very similar, sharing almost all the same tastes right down to humour, music, food, films, etc. so the generation gap doesn't seem to apply. How much time have you spent with her chatting about normal stuff? Ambitions for the future, tv programs, stuff like that?

The main problem I can see is her sister. I can't see how a long term relationship would work properly if she is in the picture and in your thoughts, good relationships are built on trust and faithfulness and its far to easy for the 'green eyed monster' to raise its head.

I'm sure you have her best interests at heart but you need to ask yourself what you really want, just a fling and some fun or something more long term?

matthewuk wrote:there is nothing wrong whatsoever in you wanting to pursue a relationship with her, the age gap is not that great after all, my own girlfriend is 22 years younger than me and we have no problems either socially or with each other.

However, I am lucky that there is not just a physical attraction with my own girlfriend, we genuinely are very similar, sharing almost all the same tastes right down to humour, music, food, films, etc. so the generation gap doesn't seem to apply. How much time have you spent with her chatting about normal stuff? Ambitions for the future, tv programs, stuff like that?

The main problem I can see is her sister. I can't see how a long term relationship would work properly if she is in the picture and in your thoughts, good relationships are built on trust and faithfulness and its far to easy for the 'green eyed monster' to raise its head.

I'm sure you have her best interests at heart but you need to ask yourself what you really want, just a fling and some fun or something more long term?

We've talked about all those things. We share a lot of common interests. The gen gap is there, but I believe ultimately that could be a good thing. Having relations with someone from the same generation allows for more relatable experiences, but a gap allows for a lot of learning experiences. I really don't see the gap as much of a problem at all, but everyone else will. I don't care about that, and I don't think she really does either.

I agree about your thoughts of her younger sister. I think my sexual desire for her will undoubtedly present an obstacle. I really do have her best interests in mind. I suppose the best way to describe my expectations is that they are flexible. The connection feels so natural and unforced. I think I might be happy being whatever she needs me to be. Even if it's only a friend. Of course, I would love for it to be more than that. If it did get to that point, her sister will no longer be an issue. Infidelity is one of the few boundaries I actually have.