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Would saying this to a psychologist indicate paedophilia?

Postby Samantha_E » Sat Oct 05, 2013 10:25 pm

So, I am planning to see a psychologist about my other issues. I intend to tell them EVERYTHING except my possible mild eating disorder, AND my suspected paedophilia.

But, I think it is important to mention sexual issues. So, I plan on mentioning my weird sexual fantasies as a child, and my spanking fetish. This is a big thing, as I have only told one person, a close friend, about it, and that was not in person.

Well, this started off about it happening to me, but then I would read stories about it happening to children. If I admitted to the psychologist that I fantasise about it happening to children (and even previously looking up videos of it happening, which were legal youtube videos) (WITHOUT mentioning anything about reading stories about and imagining children having sex), would they think I was a paedophile?

Which has made me think, one other thing worth mentioning is my daydreaming frequently involving sexually abused / molested / raped children. This would be worth mentioning, but again, if I admitted to imagining the scene itself (though the focus is always on the emotional effect), would this indicate paedophilia to the psychologist?

So, would these two things make a psychologist think I was a paedophile?
Thank you for any input.
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Re: Would saying this to a psychologist indicate paedophilia

Postby ElKahn » Sun Oct 06, 2013 8:40 am

Not only would it suggest pedophilia, but pedophilia with mildly violent fantasies, which could lead to think you could be a potential child molester. I am not saying what I think, I am saying what a psychologist would think.
Besides that, you should clarify a few things to yourself, before even thinking about saying it to others.
But then, you should figure out whether telling a psychologist would help or not.
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Re: Would saying this to a psychologist indicate paedophilia

Postby Wisedude » Sun Oct 06, 2013 7:48 pm

I have a question to the OP when they say "daydreaming frequently involving sexually abused / molested / raped children."

Certainly it is your privacy, and I don't mean to pry, but is the above daydreaming about abused children is that a pleasant think for you? Do you find it pleasant to think about children that have been sexually assaulted? Is there any particular aspect that you find pleasant about it?
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Re: Would saying this to a psychologist indicate paedophilia

Postby Samantha_E » Sun Oct 06, 2013 8:46 pm

I see. It is troublesome, because the whole fetish originated from how I think corporal punishment is a horrible horrible abuse. I would never do it.
I will take that on board, thank you. I will not say it to whoever I end up seeing, but I hope they do not ask about that specifically.

It is not 'pleasant'. More, 'interesting'. I kind of have a victim thing about myself. But do not worry, I would never hurt a child (or anyone, for that matter).
You know how people study serial killers? Not because they want to murder people, but just because it is interesting. It is more like that. I think it is entirely wrong for that sort of thing to happen to children.
The daydreams involve the strong emotional effects on the child, and also almost always involve comfort from someone else.

I am not some kind of sadist that likes seeing children in pain. (It absolutely horrifies me to see a child hurt in real life.) If I was to be a character in these daydreams, I would be the child, not the person hurting the child.
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