Think I'm obsessed with my boyfriend...please help.

I think I'm really obsessed with my boyfriend. I don't do well when he's away.

I have also been diagnosed with schitzoaffective disorder and whenever he's gone, I get really depressed.

I don't want to bother him all the time with texts when he's away but I really need to talk to him now, (about nothing) and I don't want to bother him. There's nothing really important I have to say but I get really depressed when he's not around, and unless I text him, I won't feel better. It's the need to know that he's here with me, or still with me, that I'm looking for. I do trust him, I'm not trying to like spy on him or anything, but I need to talk to him. I need him to tell me something. I need some kind of interaction between us to happen.

I already texted him a couple times while he was at work, and now he's at band practice and I already texted him while he was there. If I sent him a message now, it would be stupid, and I'm trying to tell myself that.

I don't NEED to talk to him, I want to talk to him. But it's making me depressed, and I'm starting to get to the point where I'd cry about it. I've got a six year old daughter and a two year old son that I just can't start crying for no reason in front of. I don't want to have to go down stairs and tell my soon-to-be mother-in-law that I'm having problems. So, I started drinking. Probally not the best idea in my condition, but it's the only idea I had.

Beg onsessed with your BF that pretty cute.

But if it gets so bas an unbareable for yourself then i'd talk to him about it.
He'll have some understanding.
Also i don't know if this has anything to do with OCD im not a doctor.
But it doesnt matter wht is is, you are suffering.
Talk about it with your BF i would say and maybe ask if you can see a councilour.

I have OCD, i feel better at this moment but i know much a person can suffer from certain things.
Be nice to yourself.

Mike

He knows. I already told him. He said it doesn't bother him at all, but I think he already knew before I told him.

I plan on talking to my therapist when I see her, so that will help but....

In the meantime, when he goes to work or goes out to do something with out me, I'm stuck behind wishing he was home. I want to text him, call him, beg him to return.

It's not healthy. I feel like a freak.

But that changes nothing. I'm still obsessed.

Maye euhm... You can do some more things with him.
Still give him some space afcourse.
When he is doin something with friends you can go do somethig aswell, such as going to see a movie with your friends or something.

Do you have a fear that he might leave you ?
If you do could that be the reason why ur obsessed ?

When you go to the therapist ask her if he could hive you some meds to reduce anxiety.
Because i think that you get anxious when you dont text him.
If im wrong then meds arent needed afcourse.
Well good luck , wish you the best.

-- Wed Nov 23, 2011 8:38 pm --

Maye euhm... You can do some more things with him.
Still give him some space afcourse.
When he is doin something with friends you can go do somethig aswell, such as going to see a movie with your friends or something.

Do you have a fear that he might leave you ?
If you do could that be the reason why ur obsessed ?

When you go to the therapist ask her if he could hive you some meds to reduce anxiety.
Because i think that you get anxious when you dont text him.
If im wrong then meds arent needed afcourse.
Well good luck , wish you the best.

Yes, that's exactly why I get freaked out.

I have some xanax. Maybe I should try taking it when I start feeling that way?

Sorry, girl. Zanax will help but only part way... meds can help, but the rest is up to you.

You are a fraid why your boyfriend leaves, he will not come back. Right?

You told him and he says it's OK. BUt, just saying it doesn't help.

You want to communicate to him all the time just to make sure he's there.

And, you afraid the kids won't understand.

Do I have it right?

I was going to post a who thrread on this subject... but the powers at be said no...

I don't think it's him. It's you and how you feel about yourself. Do you feel not worthy of him? That he might just leave you because of something? It could be this. I'm not saying it is... just saying it might. He is such a nice guy so why is he attracted to me?

There are so many things to discover.

1. How image is created and what it's truly is.
2. Your boy friend should be giving you cues to how he is attrated to you.
3. You are both learning about each other... for, as long as you are together, positives are made over shadowing what seems wrong

Basicall, their is a good chance he does really love you, but you might feel this can not be happening. "I am not the person to be cared for." Meaning... not the person who is attrative enough.

If this is not the case? Tell me. There other things that could be happening.

There are many people that fear that ther BF/GF woul leae them, i've feared that aswell but not the way as you.
I was a little obsessed but not as bad as you are.
Tell hil that you fear that he'd might leave you.

And indeed meds wont do everything.

Could this be separation anxiety?

what's seperation anxiety? Just like it sounds; having anxiety from being seperated from someone? Yes, it could be.

Whenever I make a new friend. I tend to get clingy. I feel for you!