people obsession

I find this really hard to articulate and very embarrssing... but here it goes, i hope it is not as rare as it feel it is

I do tend to "obsess" over things, such as experienes, conversations, music, etc, etc, but not really over objects. My main "obsession" problem is with people. I get these fixations on people that I can't shake for months, sometimes a year or perhaps longer. I never want to be fixated on them, and it tears me up because I can't make it stop.

Something about a certain person will interest me.I don't necessarily have a "crush" on that person; I just happen to find them interesting in some way. (The thing that is intriguing about them often is very small, at first.) This eventually progresses into an obsession, and I can't get them out of my mind. Everything reminds me of them. I don't know what to do to make it stop.

It is usually with a person I do not know, or if I know them at all, they are merely an acquaintance, if even that. I have never had many friends, and the few friends I do have are not in much contact with me.

What's worse is I fear that person will know. I would not be surprised if they aleady suspect something, because the nonverbal language we communicate to other people can say so much...This frightens me, because there is probably so much I am telling that person without my being aware of it... and sometimes i catch myself looking at them without being aware. They must think I am so strange! i try and not talk to them and if i do try and not make it creepy. But i mean it is creepy! At the moment i am obseesed with my lecturer and all i do is google them, try and find out what they think, who they are ect. i never want them to like me as such, but in seminars i always want their attention, i want them to know and respect me more then anything. this has happened before on a huge scale, but i was younger then and had less control over it. but it is still very annoying i feel $#%^ because i am obessing over someone

Am I the only one who deals with this "people obsessing" to this extent? Does anyone here deal with it too? If so how on do you get rid of it?

On face value, I thought that this was something new, but as I read your post more in depth I could see that I have done this in the past too. I remember teachers especially who I fixated upon, but also pweople who I would see on the bus. Hell, I even asked one girl out one day from the bus. I didn't even know her name! What made you come to the OCD forum though? - Is OCD your official diagnosis? My official diagnosis actualy IS OCD, believe it or not, but I highly regard that I have Asperger's Syndrome. Fixation upon certain things is actually a feature of Asperger's Syndrome, as is OCD.

Take care dude,
Kevin

You have a dissatisfying social life. We are social creatures. Its no wonder your mind is working overtime to master some sense of connection. I say the next time you are obsessed with someone, talk to them. Let them know what it is about them that interests you and see if you can get a conversation started.

my official dignois is avoidant personality disorder. but i have never discussed this before, nor come across it on forums relting to avpd or sa. so i figured to try somethig else. seeing as it is obessive and can be complusive. but then the lack of respose suggests i misjudged this...

I do get it with teachers mainly, rarely others and if i do it is never to the extream. but it is never a crush. more out of respect and wanting to be like them and get vaildation from them through their approval. it's rarely about friendship. nor is it a 'crush'.

I must admit recieving some kind of repsonse is reassuring. even if it does seem that it is pretty rare

Unfortunately, I can't offer much practical advice...but I would like to tell you not to be embarrassed by this and not to worry about the lack of response. I have been obsessed with people before, though it's not a common thing for me. But I understand what it's like to always think about a person, with a constant need to find out more about their life and seek their approval. I don't think it's a crush because of the lack of sexual attraction, though others may disagree - some people have told me crushes don't always involve sexual attraction (I've never felt sexual attraction so these statements confuse me).

You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed about. I've been fixated on something weird, something that seems to only bother me, for months - not a person - and it has led me to clinical depression and academic failure. That is how stupid I am. I'm now on Prozac. I'm so ashamed of this thing I haven't even mentioned it to any of my doctors. Some of them suspected OCD, but because I haven't been open none of them can confidently diagnose me. I've been diagnosed with Asperger's, and as Kevin mentioned, perseveration is a common feature.

This doesn't sound like OCD.

Yea, i only realised it when i posted it here...

hey there I'm new around here but once I gotten into this forum and read this page, I feel like I found a person with similar symptom.
I started to show OCD symptoms since I was 9. My mom is a psychologist and started to giving me some treatment since she found me doing my own 'ritual'. I wasn't completely cured because I still do several of my previous 'rituals' from the past but much lighter than my earlier symptoms..
anyway, I also have this type of 'person obsession'. once I got attached into a person or a popular group, I became obsessed and willing to do everything to complete my admiration towards this particular person. I never thought that this is also a symptom of OCD. well, is it?

anyway sorry for my bad grammar. my native language isn't English.. thanks anyway

I have done some more reserching and although still rare or not talked about there are people out there who write of similar experiences.

I don't have OCD myself, no rituals to talk of so i can't say whether it is part of it or not. Plus i am not really willing to do what they want me to do for them. I usaully put on an aloof act. try and be witty and distant with them in case they find out. i do let slip and kinda follow them up like emails and stuff (regards to lecturers) but i am more then consious about them knowing so don't or at least hope they don't know. i just want them to like me or even if they don't it is more more important that they repesct me and think i am clever. Thinking more about it and reading others experiences about it and that i think it a case of wanting to be like them or more in their legue. like i wanna be deemed as an intellectual so i try and get lecturers to think highly of them. kinda get some source of gratification that i am that?

The over obesssion and googleing them, which is the worse of my habbits and the day dreaming about having conversations with them is just me wanting to be in their legue their world. being good enough to be where they are. just doing my reserch into how to be there.

Anyway thats my self evaluation

Hey, found your post while googling for someone who was going through something similar to what I'm going through.

I get obsessed with people I meet who I think are cool and a suitable significant other, its almost like I feel rushed to meet someone whom I think I could date because there is a shortage of people in this world who I think have the qualities I'm looking for.
So when I meet someone cool, even a week later maybe I'll start wondering if I missed an opportunity to get their number and spend time with them. Sometimes I daydream about what could have been and don't know how to snap out of it. I'm a very idealistic and creative person so I'll conjure up a lot of thoughts or dream about it.

Does this happen to you?