Obsessed with personality disorders!

Yes, I kept bothering him about it, constantly talking about it and asking. I joined a relationship forum so I could ask other people about what was 'normal' in that department. I'm concerned that posting in this forum has become like a compulsion, since I want to check my symptoms and see if they are 'normal'. Perhaps I should set myself a goal of not posting for a few days?

I'd never heard of limerance before you mentioned it on here. Come to think of it, I think I might have had it 3 or 4 years ago with a man who lives locally. I'm glad that the wedding prep is going OK. Are you excited and nervous?

Wow, I've never known anyone with the same sex problem as me before! It's very interesting. Even your post made me worry. Not your fault! But because you said now you 'only' do it at weekends. It's been 3 weeks for us and my period is due any day so soon it will be 4 weeks. That scares the hell out of me. I am convinced we'll break up.

I am nervous and excited, although we've just had a huge argument. Actually we've argued 3 times this week. Sometimes I wonder if I have ROCD or if it's 'normal' to doubt her love because we argue so much.

Meant to say, I find checking the forum is a compulsion too. That and the limerence forum.

I've had this obsession too. Spent so long researching online it ate up loads of my time. I was obsessed that in was dating someone with NPD.After reading about NPD for hours my ocd over the next few weeks would scan back through memories linking loads of incidents up and causing me to spike. Its a tough obsession as everybody has traits of some personality disorders and ur ocd trying to protect u will eventually associate something to those traits.
What helped me was when my psychiatrist told me that everybody has traits of personality disorders but in someone who actually has one it is the shear dominance of these traits that distinguishes someone with one.Again ocd polarises things when in fact a lot of things are on a continuim.

kah80 wrote:Wow, I've never known anyone with the same sex problem as me before! It's very interesting. Even your post made me worry. Not your fault! But because you said now you 'only' do it at weekends. It's been 3 weeks for us and my period is due any day so soon it will be 4 weeks. That scares the hell out of me. I am convinced we'll break up.

Sorry, I didn't mean to worry you! Sometimes we miss it out when I have my period. Your partner does sound like they have a very low sex drive. Some people just do.

kah80 wrote:I am nervous and excited, although we've just had a huge argument. Actually we've argued 3 times this week. Sometimes I wonder if I have ROCD or if it's 'normal' to doubt her love because we argue so much.

Planning a wedding can be very stressful and I'm not surprised you've had a few arguments. OCD is sometimes called the doubting disease, so of course you doubt your relationship. Things like weddings really make you think about the relationship too. You obviously love them though.

I'm writing this post and then I'm setting myself a goal of not even checking the forum today - let alone posting!

OCDemons wrote:I've had this obsession too. Spent so long researching online it ate up loads of my time. I was obsessed that in was dating someone with NPD.After reading about NPD for hours my ocd over the next few weeks would scan back through memories linking loads of incidents up and causing me to spike. Its a tough obsession as everybody has traits of some personality disorders and ur ocd trying to protect u will eventually associate something to those traits.
What helped me was when my psychiatrist told me that everybody has traits of personality disorders but in someone who actually has one it is the shear dominance of these traits that distinguishes someone with one.Again ocd polarises things when in fact a lot of things are on a continuim.

Hey, another person with a PD obsession! I found that I could relate to lots of traits of various personality disorders and the more I read, the more I questioned whether I could have them. My psychiatrist and CPN also said that once you go down that road you can identify with practically all of the traits. I was terrified that I had NPD, BPD, StPD, PPD, AvPD, DPD and OCPD at various points and I'm still unsure as to whether my psychiatrist is withholding information so I stop researching them (he secretly thinks I have one and it's written in my notes), or whether he's simply missed the fact that I do have one.

In fact, I'm doubting OCD right now because I can see the funny side of it. It's utterly absurd!

How do you know what your notes say? Did they show you?

I have no idea what my notes say, it's just me wondering 'what if'. What if he thinks I do and is telling me that I don't because he wants me to stop obsessing about it? Although, he's told me that I don't. This isn't a paranoia thing - thinking he has malicious intentions. It's just doubts and overthinking things.

So much for not posting today.

Sorry for that.

No worries, no need to apologise. It's just me being a bit of a tool.

Yeah well I'm on vacation and still being on here and support groups.