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Trans in denial: why does my anxiety not go away?

Postby Lisa1989 » Tue Dec 15, 2015 2:56 am

Sometimes I even doubt I still have anxiety. I guess after all I do. I've tried to admit to myself that I'm trans and just in denial because I like traditional gender roles. And heterosexual relationships. Hence, I want to be with a man, but have little reason to believe I'm into men.
Anyway... I've been trying to admit to myself I'm trans and I just don't take the necessary steps to relieve my anxiety. I won't go to a hairdresser and cut my hair or crossdress. I still fear it, and it means denial... I won't do it! Why? Why can't I just do it to relieve my anxiety???? How far does denial go? This sucks.
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Re: Trans in denial: why does my anxiety not go away?

Postby sophisma7 » Tue Dec 15, 2015 3:10 am

Keep going with the ERP, and don't make getting rid of the anxiety your goal. Your goal is just to consistently do ERP, without any expectations of anxiety going away, or answers coming to you. Your goal is to stop avoidance and stop wasting time ruminating. :)

I say this as I'm really struggling with it now, but it's how my therapist explained it to me. If your goal is to get rid of the anxiety it'll never go away, because you'll always be paying attention to it. Just make it your goal to live your life as if OCD were not a part of it.

Keep your chin up girl! It'll get better.
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