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Can you unwillingly develop a paraphilia?

Postby KCDubbers » Tue Jun 02, 2015 12:22 am

So I'm a 24 year old male who suffers from OCD. I've had it since I was young, getting caught up mostly on health related issues (heart rate, breathing, diseases, ect....). It would usually pass after a couple of days or weeks and I never considered it debilitating. That was until recently. I have been going through a period of major stress in my life and it has brought about the worst bout of OCD I have ever had. I have been having awful intrusive thoughts everywhere I go, mostly sexual. I was beginning to get a handle on them until last night when I was having sex with my girlfriend, I started having really morbid intrusive thoughts related to necrophilia. Now, keep in mind that these thoughts were very unwanted as I am not a necrophiliac nor have I ever fantasized about necrophilia in any form. Somehow I was able to finish, but shortly after I started to fear that somehow I might develop necrophilia or some other paraphilia. I know you are supposed to let the thoughts just be there (this has been my strategy for all other intrusive thoughts), but I started to consider the whole "what fires together, wires together" theory and thought if I continued to have these thoughts during sex could it somehow lead to the development of a paraphilia? Its been freaking me out all day. I really want these thoughts to go away but I'm afraid of letting them just be there in fear of developing a paraphilia. I refuse to entertain the possibility of such a fate. Does my logic sound ridiculous or can this actually happen? Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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Re: Can you unwillingly develop a paraphilia?

Postby Zamyou » Sat Jun 06, 2015 10:17 am

Heya,

You know i'm very sure you cant become something sexually youre not..
But as the brain is very plastic, you can develop a strong OCD behavioural pattern..
You can start to think about necro-stuff duribg sex but its rooted in fear and not arousal..
So try to face the fear itaelf and just relax.. OCD will always be there but you cant become someone you are not!!
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Re: Can you unwillingly develop a paraphilia?

Postby confusedAS » Sun Jun 07, 2015 1:14 pm

The 'neurons that fire together wire together' caused me the worst bout of OCD I've ever had. I read it on some site dedicated to porn addiction. My story is similar to yours but it went a bit further. I got hooked on transexual porn and everytime that sentence came to my mind. I didn't know what to do, normal pornography didn't excite me much anymore and I only watched that disgusting stuff. I was scared those images would follow me all my life and that I'd be more attracted to artificial porngraphy created people than normal girls. I thought to myself I'll never overcome this addiction the more you watch it the harder it'll be to get rid of it, I'll end up with a person from that type of pornography, I'll catch HIV, I'll be super depressed and embarassed abouit myself and suicidal (I was suicidal for months). I tried many different things, not watching porn anymore, watching only normal porn etc but nothing really helped. Not watching porn is avoidance which is bad for OCD, but the usual exposure therapy also can't work because it would make addiction worse. The thing that saved my life was medication as it took my libido away and anxiety reduced. I was able to think more rationally and when I stopped using it I just had normal sexual thoughts and the frequency I checked the deviant porn lessened a lot. Now I never watch it anymore and i try to limit porn in general.

But your situation is different so don't worry. Just let the thoughts be there and you can't get addicted to your anxiety thoughts as you don't get aroused by them.

Now I have OCD about the fact I let those events happn and couldn't stop it so they could be an emotional scar for life. I have no idea how to get rid of those thoughts. I try to reassure myself but it doesn't help. There were also many other problems in my life during that period (no goal in life, no work, no studies etc.) and I had two periods inwhich I couldnt sleep for a week and with constant panic attacks I thought I was about to die. I see those moments and the constant doubt that lasted a year as an emotional scar. I tried everything medication talk therapy but nothing helps. I can't work full time because I spend 5hours or more on this obsessions every day. It makes me suicidal what should I do?
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Re: Can you unwillingly develop a paraphilia?

Postby Richard671 » Wed Jul 01, 2015 12:41 pm

I have that same anxiety. Its been 2 years now that a certain theme has stuck with me and I dont know how to get out of it.
I'm plagued with the fear that I've developed a paraphilia to bad odors. I know it sounds strange but It makes me feel like a disgusting person. Ive had nearly all sexual ocd themes and now this one.
Everytime Im confronted with a bad odor my body and brain react. Its like a rush of anxiety or is it arousal. Im always so confused. This never happened until I put it in my head 2 years ago. Now its everytime.
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