Boyfriend w/ Relationship OCD or not in love w me? HELP

Hello,

I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months. We’re both in our mid 30’s so we were at a point of getting serious pretty fast (note, we already dated in the past).

For starters, I think he has a mild case of OCD in general and also he used to have a hoarding problem so he avoid buying anything now. Currently he has a mattress on the floor and couple of chairs at his house..thats it.

Back to the relationship issue, he has a strong opinion that girls and guys cant be friend and he does not like it when I meet up w/ my guy friends. He has expressed multiple times that he does not support the idea of me meeting up w my guys friends but said it was up to me to decide (of course, I felt guilty every time since I knew how he felt so I decided not to meet up w/ them anymore). But one weekend, around 1am, one my guy friend decides to call me and I answered the phone. Was a very short conversation and we hung up. Apparently my bf heard this conversation and days later he blew up on me. Its been several weeks and he is having major doubts about me. I apologized multiple times and did whatever I could to clear any misunderstanding. One minute he say loves me so much and literally the next day he is avoiding me and says he is confused. He said he cant stop thinking about what happened and he is not sure if he can get over it. It's been almost 3 weeks of him being hot and cold. What is this?????? I never cheated on him and he knows perfectly well that I’m not that kind of a person but for some reason, he cant stop thinking about the incident. So about a week ago, I sent an email saying I’m too confused and emotionally drained and that I’m done w/ the relationship. He has not responded back at all. I’m so angry and confused! I thought at least he would reply w/ something but NOTHING. I know I should move on but no reply seems so immature and felt like he never cared and I was played.

What do you guys think? I'm so hurt and disappointed right now..I'm not sure what to do or what to think? Any thoughts will be appreciated.

You talking to a guy friend is not a good excuse for him to act the way he is acting, us men do get jealous from time to time but thats just because we care...and it seems like you love him and obviously you care about that's going on...I would advise you to give things some time and wait till things cool down for him(even though he shouldn't be like this)when he talks to you again have a good chat with him and tell him how you feel...and if he doesn't talk to you again it just shows that he's not the one for you and you deserve a good man because you sound like a great woman.