question to pedophiles from POCD sufferer **TRIGGER**

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We will see how it goes for now. 1/22/14

Otter.

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Hi everyone!

So basically I've been testing myself, but to thoughts of recieving oral sex from kids, as oral sex is what I'm most into, and I suppose the OCD was always going to intertwine my thing for oral sex with the thoughts of kids. Anyway, I've been testing myself for about 5 hours, and now I find that with certain thoughts of kids I can quite often get erections, even when I'm really really trying not to but when I want to get an erection to the same thought but with women there's hardly any movement down there! am I turning into a pedophile? And if not, why am I getting erections to kids but not to women? I've always liked women and never kids, so why is this even happening? (Sorry if this should be on the OCD board, I just wanted to hear what some pedophiles had to say, thank you for your time).

Hi there.

As this post is about OCD and not something the pedophiles on here can answer for you and you may find you will benefit more from the perpectives of others with OCD, I am moving this to the OCD forum. There is a shadow in Paraphilias so you will be able to find your thread easily and so the users of the paraphilia forum will be able to answer if they feel so inclined.

Lifelongthing
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There have been studies done on normal samples of the population that showed around 85% of men show some erectile response to nude images of young children. It's actually pretty normal to have a few incidents where you get an errection to that sort of fantasy from time to time. Pedophiles are people for whom that's their primary sexual orientation.

I realize it can be disconcerting to discover this on your own and think it's just you. That's really a problem of how stygmatized anything even connected to pedophilia is in our current culture. It keeps people from being told basic facts like this, and then people freak out and think they're turning into pedophiles.

I imagine the reason you aren't getting any response to fantasies about adult women is that you're so invested in it happening to "prove" you're not a pedophile, the stress is killing you errection. It happens all the time with other kinds of erectile disfunction. What will likely happen is that if you properly relax, your normal sexual response will come back just fine.

You're still getting reactions to fantasies about kids because you keep thinking about them and testing yourself over them, and when you don't get a response due to the stress, that's enough to relax you a little, and your text test comes back positive.

There are two things I can tell you that will hopefully help.

1) Again, most men can get an errection from fantasies involving young children. That's just a quirk of our biology that can give us a sexual response from almost anything to some degree or another.

2) Being a pedophile isn't the end of the world. I'm primarily oriented toward little girls aged 0-10. I don't molest kids, and I'm living a fairly normal life.

Well i'm aroused by some underage teens sure, when they start to develop they become hot.. and some children can be good looking too but i would never be into that and im not pedo.. im sure a lot of men have secretly thought about young girls, its normal.. its not about a wish to molest "kids" just for the sake of doing that.. its kindof like "being the dominant or bigger one" when the porn actress is younger and smaller, a teen or an adult.. its a common male thing.. i prefer shorter and "smaller" women i find them hotter even tho they are adults!

Thanks YouthRightsRadical and Zamyou. Just curious YRR - when did you know you were a pedophile? I presume early on in your life? And at first, did it affect your functioning at school and such? Thank you!

Sorry ,YouthRightsRadical ,I can't actually believe what I've just read: How can you say being a pedophile isn't the end if the world ? Whilst I agree that men (and women ) may have the odd thought of an underage kid ,I don't class as having thoughts primarily about "0-10" as normal at all :/ I'm only aiming this at you because you've so matter of factly said that statement which is what a peodophile would do. I can maybe understand probably about 8 upwards (don't get me wrong I've had the odd thought ) but 0 being a baby ?? How can you even say that as calmly as you have ?

Well said, standinginline. I don't even think this thread should be here. I've heard that comment from a pedophile on here before. "It's not the end of the world." Are you joking? They are just so casual about their condition and accepting of it, which is why we can't be pedophiles, because it upsets and disturbs us all so much. Me? I won't even converse with one. They frighten me, which is probably why I thought I was one. Just keep on telling yourselves it's your OCD. If you were a pedophile, you'd be noticing little kids from as early as 14. It's when you hit puberty that you begin to notice what your attractions are. I remember quite clearly I wanted a man and his hog, not a child who is innocent and pure. I often feel my OCD trying to tell me I find children sexually attractive. That's hilarious. I never have found a child sexually attractive, nor had the idea of waking up in bed with one every day. OCD takes something you fear, and in my case, it has actually combined it with something I enjoy. It's too personal to say in this thread, but I am through the worst of my POCD now. I can't wait to get help to get rid of this OCD nonsense. I've had HOCD and ROCD too, so I know my stuff.

HelpMeSoScared wrote:Well said, standinginline. I don't even think this thread should be here. I've heard that comment from a pedophile on here before. "It's not the end of the world." Are you joking? They are just so casual about their condition and accepting of it, which is why we can't be pedophiles, because it upsets and disturbs us all so much. Me? I won't even converse with one. They frighten me, which is probably why I thought I was one. Just keep on telling yourselves it's your OCD. If you were a pedophile, you'd be noticing little kids from as early as 14. It's when you hit puberty that you begin to notice what your attractions are. I remember quite clearly I wanted a man and his hog, not a child who is innocent and pure. I often feel my OCD trying to tell me I find children sexually attractive. That's hilarious. I never have found a child sexually attractive, nor had the idea of waking up in bed with one every day. OCD takes something you fear, and in my case, it has actually combined it with something I enjoy. It's too personal to say in this thread, but I am through the worst of my POCD now. I can't wait to get help to get rid of this OCD nonsense. I've had HOCD and ROCD too, so I know my stuff.

I would like to contribute to this thread with views of an assumed pedophiliac, but first I'de like to be clear at some points, what exacly is POCD, HOCD and ROCD and what does that relate with pedophiliac thoughts? I figure OCD is Obsessive Cumpulsive Disorder, am i right?
What exacly is your disorder?

***PLEASE NOTE***

I have added a TRIGGER warning to the title of this thread. Please stay away from it if you are sensitive to the topic. My chief concern is that this doesn't trigger anyone or turn into an angry debate. This is a support forum.

We will see how it goes for now.

Otter.

otter wrote:***PLEASE NOTE***

I have added a TRIGGER warning to the title of this thread. Please stay away from it if you are sensitive to the topic. My chief concern is that this doesn't trigger anyone or turn into an angry debate. This is a support forum.

We will see how it goes for now.

Otter.

Thank you for the note Moderator, as for me, i'm ok with possible triggers, i've been coping very well with it since i am actually using this forum to fight all traces of triggers, whenever i feel the need to it, i just open up the forum and check for replyes to posts , its helping me a lot.
About this thread in particular, i would just like to make clear what exacly are the arguments and the possible connections between disorders, simply because i'm ignorant in relation to OCD and would like to know more to be able to give my opinion from a pedophiliac point of view
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