Ex....dazed and confused beyond compare.

Been together for nearly 7 years. We had a bad year this year, 2012 wasn't kind to us.

Relationship had been full of red flags, red flags that I ignored. I always found it strange that she had demonized one of her exes, or that her stories were inconsistent. Was great at the beginning, a sex life I could only dream of, highly affectionate, loved doing things together...changed within 3 years.

Incredibly anti-social. Worked together for a few months, on breaks, she would isolate herself from EVERYBODY and eat alone, using the rest of her break to be on Facebook. At some points, I would eat with her, or try to include her with the rest of us in the break room. She said she was fine alone. Post-breakup, she stated that "You ignored and isolated me!". World runs on her own schedule, she has little to no respect for timings of others. Even deadlines for her schooling are extended by weeks.

Our split has not been pretty. She has completely re-written the history of our relationship to the point where I questioned myself and what I knew. Once she said she was sorry and wished she could take the "bad feelings" away. I told her the next day that she could try, to which she disavowed any knowledge of saying that. I had evidence(it was over IM), to which she went completely silent. Takes pleasure in the misery of others and consistently thrives on drama. Remorseless and unwilling to take responsibility for her hand in anything. Everything is always somebody else's fault.

She claimed to have anxiety so bad that she sat on the couch for months until "her muscles atrophied and she needed therapy to learn how to walk again". We were talking once and when I recalled that story, it changed. Her most used line is "I never said that". Now she's back to telling the same story on a mental health group on Facebook. Seems to do or say anything for pity online(and yes, I know this as a fact). She doesn't seem to make any mention of me pushing to my physical and emotional limits within the relationship as well as working long hours, to then come home, make dinner, clean, while she sat there doing the same thing she did all day...nothing. In each story, she's the victim of a sad, sad play. To each person she speaks to, the story changes a little bit. She claimed to had gone into therapy when she was younger and it went "great'.

Found out that her therapy did NOTHING because she wouldn't even speak to the therapist. Also stated that "three psychiatrists have no idea what's wrong with me".

I spent months trying to get her to open up, ask her what was bothering her, she'd say it was nothing, or she was fine. She was on anti-anxiety/anti-depressants when we started dating, she decided to come off them saying "I don't want pills controlling my life". This quickly turned into "YOU need meds!".

Inconsiderate, highly opinionated, unwilling to listen to the opinions or thoughts of others. When events are recalled where she had done something wrong, "That's YOUR perception".

Nasty, snide remarks shot my way and I took offense? "It's just a joke!", "Stop being so sensitive".

Trying to get an ounce of closure spun me so hard in circles that I neared suicide.

Moved away from her two weeks ago back home, during the final days, she was a completely different person, loving, affectionate. Now that I'm back home, she's back to cold. Reminded of things she's said goes back to a "I never said that".

Said I was too "touchy-feely" and "needed some personal space" in the relationship. Never initiated an ounce of physical closeness, I once asked her why I felt like I was initiating kisses and the like, and she rolled her eyes and kissed me, saying "happy?" Now has turned around to "He never wanted anything to do with me!"

Constant questions of affirmation from her, to which I would tell her she was beautiful, she was sexy, she was smart, et cetera. Felt like I was walking on eggshells to avoid displeasing her in any way, shape, or form.

Was told at the beginning of the relationship that I was her soulmate, everything she ever wanted...within 2 years, that feeling was gone, 2 more after that, she seemed like a stranger, after the breakup, quickly rewrote history so that she was the victim. Even admitted that she "fell out of love" after 4 years but didn't bother telling me. Can't help but feel like I've been D&D'd.

Wants to remain friends(been friends for over a decade), but unsure of myself or why I became such an absolute pussy. I bent over backwards to accomodate just about every aspect of her life for her (I couldn't even say "Bless you" when she sneezed, was quickly corrected not to say that to her) to the point where I feel I've turned into a different person...I somehow still feel manipulated into a friendship with her.

My ex(who I am great friends with now after a 2 year relationship) said that I was completely manipulation-proof during our time together, and admitted that she even tried and couldn't break me.

...is this what an N does to you? She even feels that she has no issues that she needs to address, though I and countless others can see right through, now.