Has anyone else had Facebook be an issue?

The wife of a very close friend of mine had a very messy fight with her sister that resulted in a family break up (they basically stopped all communication). Now this person has always demonstrated symptoms of NPD from what I have read, but I did not know this at that time. This break up that occurred was not supposed to be public knowledge, in fact this person compartmentalized quite a bit of information. You never knew who could know what. If you accidentally shared something that was not perceived as permissible by this person, you were "punished" (verbally and even passively).

One day, about a month after the break up, I noticed several posts on Facebook where the wife supposedly got together with her sister. This struck me as odd since my friend had expressed how unhappy he was with his sister-in-law within the last several days, so I called him. When I asked him if they were getting back together, he replied that I was the second person who had asked this, and that nothing had changed in regards to the status of the broken relationship, and he knew that his wife had not even spoken to her sister, let alone got together with her. He then stated that he was going to talk to his wife about this, again.

Ever since that day, my wife and I have been pushed away. There has been much passive-aggressive behavior from the wife that it has made it all but impossible to even communicate civilly.

So my question (after the long explanation), is it common to have Facebook as a location where people with NPD verbalize their fantasies out loud?

I think it's far more interesting that you are so interested in your friend's wife's family feud. Why on earth would you care if she and her sister are fighting, or have stopped fighting? You don't think that actually caring enough to call this man and ask if the feud between his wife and sister-in-law is over is just a bit off?

And you mentioned nothing about fantasies. Are you saying you think that the FB page was just a bunch of wishful thinking?

This is the wife of a friend? You seem far too interested for it to be just that.

Oh the drama.

I'll never be able to understand it.

I would not care about whether they fight or not. The topic was unfortunately brought up with quite a bit of frequency by my friend when we would talk. It caused him a bit of stress in his family life. That is why when I saw several posts regarding about how they got together and had such a great time, I found it slightly strange.

The FB postings seemed to be wishful thinking, but they were presented as actual reality.

Hm, I actually avoid facebook. I like my privacy.

Se7en7 wrote:Hm, I actually avoid facebook. I like my privacy.

Yes. I have a facebook for observation and useful information, but i never share myself.

YES! My NH has used FB in the most bizzar ways. He has publicly humilated people and then wonders why they have deleted his post or unfriended him. This of course sends him into a tantrum. How dare they delete my post etc...
He doesn't realize normal people don't put up with that crap.