The games people play

Hello
This is my first post, so please be gentle with me!

Two years ago, the man that was formally my husband left me for someone else. After leaving me I sort councelling and learn about personality disorders and in particular Narcissistic personality disorders. I learnt after this man departure he had been in jail (for fraud) , diagnosed with NPD, and been in mental instutions.
I had good help from the start....he left and I never replied to any communication from him the day he walked out. He was only playing games and looking after himself. Someone said to me - he is playing games I would never be equiped to understand, and not to get myself into the game. I have worked very hard to get my life back on track and have complete separation to move forward.

The only area I am vunerable is the internet.

He has been banned from many forums due to him not playing by the rules. Is it possible he either types under false names, or gets others to type for him?
Is it possible he poses as another person to access me? Is that the thing a NPD person would do?

hi welcome to the forum!!! ill try to be as gentle as i can, i know this can be a difficult process!

i have a couple of questions for you, if you dont mind

first off, are you mentally challenged?, and second, are you a narracist?

if you answered yes to the first question its likely your a narrasist,

and alternativily if you answered yes to the second question, its likely your mentally challenged.


what would make you think your ex has the time, or even cares about you to track down each and every one of your online aliases. only a narracist could entertain such a absurd idea, noone would do that not the most clingy mofo in the world!

and hypothetically, if your ex was doing something to this effect, what would he hope to gain?

god i hope you dont have to worry about being trolled by your anonomoyos ex husband, that would just be awful!

surely you realize you are being paranoid?


please forgive my spelling mistakes

lookingforanswers23 wrote:hi welcome to the forum!!! ill try to be as gentle as i can, i know this can be a difficult process!

i have a couple of questions for you, if you dont mind

first off, are you retarded?, and second, are you a narracist?

if you answered yes to the first question its likely your a narrasist,

and alternativily if you answered yes to the second question, its likely your retarded.


what would make you think your ex has the time, or even cares about you to track down each and every one of your online aliases. only a narracist could entertain such a absurd idea, noone would do that not the most clingy mofo in the world!

and hypothetically, if your ex was doing something to this effect, what would he hope to gain?

god i hope you dont have to worry about being trolled by your anonomoyos ex husband, that would just be awful!

surely you realize you are being paranoid?


please forgive my spelling mistakes

While I think your post had some potential good advice, it perhaps may have come across a little insensitive.

Realistically, I do not see a Narcissist spending his time going through forums stalking you. I am a Narc that had 6 months of abuse by a Narc. It took him 3 months to even notice I had blocked him on Facebook. Not only that, but after we stopped talking, I realized he never even knew how to spell my name, nor did he care.

Being a Narc, if someone leaves my life. I get over it pretty quick. And sure as hell, you will never ever ever find me wasting my emotional energy searching and trying to sabotage my ex 'online' on locations I do not even know.. (this would take hours of my time!) I may send a text or something.. that takes about 10 seconds.. albeit it would make the other person feel like I really care the world for them. Spending longer than that on someone no longer part of my life? No thanks. There are plenty of others vying for my attention. 'I don't care about you anymore.'

I think you are perhaps just being a bit paranoid.. correct me if you have evidence of him doing this to you? It just seems to far fetched to ever be conceivable. Maybe a Narc might spend 20 seconds changing his Facebook status to 'In a Relationship' or something else simple to upset you.. but actively seeking you out on forums, signing up and then looking through all the messages trying to find you and seek some type of revenge.. or something?

If you are not in our life and we are upset at you.. we seek revenge in a much more not time and emotionally consuming method. That simply drains of the precious energy we need to stay in a decent mood. This idea you discuss of him doing this to you, seems unfathomable..

He's out of your life. Move on and live your life. Chances are, he has as well (to one or multiple others).. if he truly is a Narc.