Sexual fetishes in narcissists

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We all have oddities, especially in our fetishes and fantasies.
I can't say much about what is the 'norm' for PDs, but if you are disturbed by these fantasies, have the courage to get help!
If not, live in peace and... do no harm!

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PsyChase wrote:So...am I sexually an odd narcissist or not?

No, I don't think you are. While not all those who are attracted to sado/masochistic behaviors are narcissists, I believe (without any provable evidence) that this wouldn't be an unusual fetish for a N. It kind of fits in with the PD in many cases.

Unbeknownst to me, my ex-N led a secret "double life" in the BDSM community. Humiliation is the key word for many Ns. Ex-N enjoyed subjecting a multitude of {bad} women to humiliation for many many years. Of course I was the "saint" so I was spared any knowledge of this and in fact, he even withheld sex during our {very short} marriage. Later on down the road, he explored the bottom role. My belief is that it is related to the underlying need he feels for punishment.

I believe there may be many more Ns in the BDSM community than one might imagine. Victims of Ns are loathe to discuss this subject, but I have had several Ns in therapy who have alluded to enjoying S&M.

But this is all supposition and I doubt there would even be a feasible way to study it.

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If you haven't had a woman yet, I wouldn't be too worried about fantasies.

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PsyChase wrote:

BarrierReef wrote:If you haven't had a woman yet, I wouldn't be too worried about fantasies.

I'm scared to smile for fear that it will come out fake. I also fear that by smiling, I will come across as feminine. I'm scared to ask for a girl's number for fear that she will laugh me off and humiliate me in front of everyone.

It's not always easy to take those kinds of chances, but it's better than regretting and wondering what might have been.