Do people with NPD get nervous?

Hey,

Is it common for people with NPD to get/act nervous? I'm mainly referring to situations around a new 'love interest'/soon-to-be narcissistic supply. For people on here diagnosed with NPD, how do you feel around a brand new NS? Would you ever stutter, avoid eye contact, display insecure body language or other signs commonly associated with nervousness? Or would you simply feel on top of the world and scoff at the idea to exhibit your insecurities in front of a person you're, for one reason or another, interested in?

Thanks! I'd love to hear your thoughts!

NPD can feel nervous even if they would rather not admit it, however I doubt they would exhibit it particularly not in the ways you describe.

Do I ever get nervous during social interaction or meeting a new wonderful girl to lure?

No. Never.

Do I ever get nervous when there is a chance of failure such as exams or competitive games where I want and need to win?

Yes, most definitely.

Yes, I do get nervous sometimes if I find someone extremely attractive. I can be shy around them at first. I'm more covert and I am naturally shy. It's also a power play though. I don't come in like a wrecking ball and woo him. It's his job to catch my attention and woo ME.

I do not ever stutter or display insecure body language....these things have no place in my world. I'm more coquettish and cutely shy.

LittleMissToxic wrote:Yes, I do get nervous sometimes if I find someone extremely attractive. I can be shy around them at first. I'm more covert and I am naturally shy. It's also a power play though. I don't come in like a wrecking ball and woo him. It's his job to catch my attention and woo ME.

I do not ever stutter or display insecure body language....these things have no place in my world. I'm more coquettish and cutely shy.

This is an interesting topic considering that maybe male narcissists are in deep contrast with female narcissists regarding picking up others?

Midwinter wrote:

LittleMissToxic wrote:Yes, I do get nervous sometimes if I find someone extremely attractive. I can be shy around them at first. I'm more covert and I am naturally shy. It's also a power play though. I don't come in like a wrecking ball and woo him. It's his job to catch my attention and woo ME.

I do not ever stutter or display insecure body language....these things have no place in my world. I'm more coquettish and cutely shy.

This is an interesting topic considering that maybe male narcissists are in deep contrast with female narcissists regarding picking up others?

Possibly, but I imagine that they are more "predatory" females out there too. I just don't happen to be one of them. I'm more candy sweet than ball breaker.

Not usually, however it may manifest more as irritation. If I do feel something of the nervous nature I can override it with my thoughts, yes, a quick reprogramming and I'm back on track. Talking with women I am old slicko, unless there is nothing to gain. I often surprise myself with my ability to be charmy. I exploit many methods, all avenues.
I used to be more nervous, as a young boyo I thought cars were following me so I could be Napped and dismembered in a crick bed. My public speaking has also improved spectacularly, astronomically.
Present day, I rarely get nervy. Simply I just flick the switch, the figurative one.
It's hard to gauge ones own body language but I'm confidento, head up with the broad shoulders, all that rudimentary stuff. I further utilize silly tricks like walking the same pace as a potential specimen, I think one could call what I add mirroring, but I always use some fancy new trickies on ladios that I know fairly well. I need not over elaborate.

spirits wrote:Hey,

Is it common for people with NPD to get/act nervous?

I've always had trouble with social anxiety and paranoia so whiel I might not be able to always clearly define what makes me nervous or why I am not nervous in a situation it does happen and can become quite strong yea.

Thanks for your replies!

Could the proneness to act nervous around the NS differ between cerebral and somatic narcissists? somatic narcissists ought to be straightforward and skilled in his/hers interaction with the narcissistic supply. His body is after all his tool. I’m rather convinced I’m 'up against' a cerebral Narcissist, and this person acted much like an enthralled, nervous little boy in my presence. Perhaps it was the novelty of it all. I just had this idea that NPD's would not get nervous around others, since you, from what I’ve gathered, see others as an extension of yourself and a means to an end.

I’m surprised to hear most of you do tend to get nervous in other settings. I would think, since NPD's often believe themselves to be vastly superior, that the thought of failure didn’t really exist, so whatever it is you want to achieve the likelihood of failure is little to none, because you are after all exceptional. But maybe my understanding of how it works is somewhat simplified?

Quoth, big Anatoly and Akuma, thank you so much for your input!

Some questions about Midwinter and LitteMissToxic’s replies:

Midwinter, so, not even the most alluring/high quality NS would throw you off balance? Let’s say they are more attractive and/or accomplished (depending if you seek beauty or brains, or both, in your NS)?

LitteMissToxic, would you say your cute shyness is a manipulative strategy more so than actual shyness?

spirits wrote:Thanks for your replies!

Could the proneness to act nervous around the NS differ between cerebral and somatic narcissists? somatic narcissists ought to be straightforward and skilled in his/hers interaction with the narcissistic supply. His body is after all his tool. I’m rather convinced I’m 'up against' a cerebral Narcissist, and this person acted much like an enthralled, nervous little boy in my presence. Perhaps it was the novelty of it all. I just had this idea that NPD's would not get nervous around others, since you, from what I’ve gathered, see others as an extension of yourself and a means to an end.

I’m surprised to hear most of you do tend to get nervous in other settings. I would think, since NPD's often believe themselves to be vastly superior, that the thought of failure didn’t really exist, so whatever it is you want to achieve the likelihood of failure is little to none, because you are after all exceptional. But maybe my understanding of how it works is somewhat simplified?

Quoth, big Anatoly and Akuma, thank you so much for your input!

Some questions about Midwinter and LitteMissToxic’s replies:

Midwinter, so, not even the most alluring/high quality NS would throw you off balance? Let’s say they are more attractive and/or accomplished (depending if you seek beauty or brains, or both, in your NS)?

LitteMissToxic, would you say your cute shyness is a manipulative strategy more so than actual shyness?

They mostly hate Vaknin around here, lol, so the first question is triggering for some. I would say it differs between overt and covert. As far as cerebral and somatic, in my opinion, a cerebral could get nervous seeking sexual attention or a relationship. That's not their ultimate goal in life, that's not what they strive for daily and it's not how they get their feed. As we see with Vaknin, some don't even want a sexual relationship AT ALL.

Regardless, I do agree with most around here that we can't be put into a neat, little box. Every person is different just like every narc is different. So, we could have somatic and/or cerebral tendencies depending on the situation. The line can't even be completely drawn between overt and covert, but I do think that it can be drawn for the most part (my opinion).

I have probably made my shyness into a manipulation strategy. I've always been shy. Now that I'm older, I'm mostly just shy around a romantic interest. I am the sweet, cute, infinitely adorable, friendly person who would never hurt a fly. I am blonde hair and big blue eyes and a lovely smile for everyone. I am loved and adored for that. My ultimate feed comes from a romantic partner. You could say I am somatic. I like to be called beautiful and praised about my sexual skills. I like to be pampered and spoiled and indulged. I couldn't care less if someone praises me for academic accomplishments. Yawn, lol.