Narc tried to mess with me-cont'd

So earlier I posted about this guy who I believe is an N. The story continues.

His kids were visiting for a month during which time I barely saw him. That was fine because I was doing N/C and trying to avoid him. The day before they left he approaches me 'We have to talk', super weird, and tells me he broke up with his girlfriend which was always his excuse for not being available. OK, fine. Then he texts me (from an unrecognized number-HOW MANY CELL PHONES DOES THIS GUY HAVE) and wants me to have dinner with him. I tell him we can have coffee and talk.

So at coffee he tells me he broke up with his girlfriend, wants to see more of his kids, is going to challenge his custody arrangement and wants to find a wife. WTF. I told him if he wants to be friends with me he has to be honest then ask him a question to which I know the answer and he casually lies and blows it off. I told him he should marry this girlfriend he broke up with because he really seemed to like her and she could help take care of his children. He tells me 'I like her as a human being but I want a pretty and rich wife.' He seems clueless as to what he brings to the table. Everybody wants a pretty and rich wife, but this guy is twice divorced, getting older (less earning power), has kids from a previous marriage and doesn't want any more, has a bad reputation, is dishonest and cheats. I was thinking to myself, right some pretty and rich woman is just going to fall into your lap? Uhh... that was me. And you were a complete ass. Alright, then.

WHAT is this behavior? So freaking weird. It was the last straw for me in that I don't have feelings anymore. I wanted closure and now I have it.

Good luck dude.

Doesn't sound like he was messing with you. He was just living his life. You were the one who was meddling if you ask me.

And, he doesn't sound like an N to me. A jerk, yes. A misogynist, yes. But nothing pathological, sorry.

fedup1 wrote: He seems clueless as to what he brings to the table.

Ya.

Why do they seriously believe they're worthy of of a supermodel....??

Mine brought NOTHING to the table...which is why he's still a bald, broke-@$$ freak that trolls ChristianMingle.


Dump and Flush

BlueFlower wrote:

fedup1 wrote: He seems clueless as to what he brings to the table.

Ya.

Why do they seriously believe they're worthy of of a supermodel....??

Mine brought NOTHING to the table...which is why he's still a bald, broke-@$$ freak that trolls ChristianMingle.


Dump and Flush

Thanks for making me laugh.

Yes this guy not only wants a supermodel but one who is also a meal ticket.

Such low expectations.

What's truly interesting (and I disagree that there is no pathology involved here) is the complete and total lack of *self awareness* that say the average Joe would have. Average Joe would be thinking, well I'm 55, graying hair, have two kids that new wife will have to take care of, and don't want more kids with her, two previous divorces makes me a risky proposition, plus my casual lying and cheating... gee I'd be grateful to find an average looking woman with her own house who would be willing to date me. No, it's a list of totally unattainable traits this new wife is supposed to have to please him.

BTW, anyone who is rich has their money tied up in trusts and property which at least in California-belongs to them BEFORE the marriage, and is therefore theirs during (and after) the marriage. It is only NEW money/equity made DURING the marriage that is community property. Again, total lack of common sense knowledge for someone who has already been married and divorced twice in this state, but it doesn't matter, this guy has everything figured out.

Of course in his mind it is everyone else who is stupid.

Baffling.