Do you invalidate others' feelings........?

But hate it when others invalidate (saying things like "don't be silly" or "you shouldn't feel that way" or "oh, come on........" or something like that) or minimize your feelings?

Just wondering if this is a Narcissistic thing. I do this myself. If I feel that someone's feelings about something I did are silly, I personally see no reason to change the behavior. However, If someone were to invalidate or minimize my feelings about something, I get defensive

In situations where I invalidate, I simply can't help but to see the other person's feeling as silly (or whatever I see them as), That's just how my brain is wired.

sometimes.

when people tell me about their heartbreaks I can't empathize with that because I've never been dumped or loved anyone.

other things I can empathize with and do try to validate their feelings.

we tend to dismiss those feelings or experiences we've never had though, imo. but if we care we'll conjure something.

If I feel that someone's feelings about something I did are silly, I personally see no reason to change the behavior. However, If someone were to invalidate or minimize my feelings about something, I get defensive

In situations where I invalidate, I simply can't help but to see the other person's feeling as silly (or whatever I see them as), That's just how my brain is wired.

O-o ...that be hypocrisy that people complain about. Yes, that be it...

InSpiritus wrote:

If I feel that someone's feelings about something I did are silly, I personally see no reason to change the behavior. However, If someone were to invalidate or minimize my feelings about something, I get defensive

In situations where I invalidate, I simply can't help but to see the other person's feeling as silly (or whatever I see them as), That's just how my brain is wired.

O-o ...that be hypocrisy that people complain about. Yes, that be it...

Yup

Yes, Bigbird, I've done this too. (I'm working on it Inspiritus!)

me too bitty. me too. * sigh*

I have one of the best teachers IMO...she calls me on my crap.