Is my N sister trying to reel me in or is she being genuine?

I've been NC with my N sister for a few months. I recently got a text from her that stated, "I know we haven't been in touch and I've been very very busy and not so supportive of you, but let me make it up to you by hanging out!"

Is she probably trying to reel me in or is has she genuinely changed? In the past, she's behaved as a flying monkey for N mother whom I've been NC for much longer. It's so hard to grasp if she's being genuine because it's in the form of a text, not her voice.

Sounds pretty fishy.

fergi6777 wrote:but let me make it up to you by hanging out!

She thinks she is your Christmas present.
I would skip it.

Is she probably trying to reel me in or is has she genuinely changed?

Narcs don't change, shes trying to reel you in so she can spit you out again.

Yorkshirelass wrote:

Is she probably trying to reel me in or is has she genuinely changed?

Narcs don't change, shes trying to reel you in so she can spit you out again.

But I can change! I can!

Answer: A.

Read the text again...it's all about her.

You could always talk to her, instead of relying on advice from bitter 'nons' with an axe to grind. Not everything a narcissist does is part of an evil plot.

She's bored. There's only so much Netflix streaming that's worth watching, you know.

nightdrive
Not everything a narcissist does is part of an evil plot.

They are in it together

fergi6777 wrote:I've been NC with my N sister for a few months. I recently got a text from her that stated, "I know we haven't been in touch and I've been very very busy and not so supportive of you, but let me make it up to you by hanging out!"

Is she probably trying to reel me in or is has she genuinely changed? In the past, she's behaved as a flying monkey for N mother whom I've been NC for much longer. It's so hard to grasp if she's being genuine because it's in the form of a text, not her voice.

What does the 'behaving like a flying monkey' mean?

There are many things behind the mail, and even the style of expressing oneself differs from culture to culture, so the only thing anyone can offer is the perception of a mail.

1. No one is able to change in a few months.
2. The text you posted sounds genuine. The question is what her genuine is.
3. What could be perceived from a mail is superiority; she genuinely wants to be supportive to you because she implies that you need a support and that she is qualified to give it to you. Which implies that you are inferior to her and if the two of you meet the conversation will reflect this.
4. But it also could be perceived that she is offering the apology for not being supportive in the past and reaching out to you.
5 . You perhaps need a support, but you need to decide whether the kind of support that she can provide is good for you or not. Because this is what she is offering. I don't know if you asked for a support in any way.

I was reading your other posts and I have a few question for you.
- If you were financially dependent on her, would you still go no contact?
- I understand you are 30. Why would you be financially dependent on anyone?
- Do you have any disability that is preventing you from being financially independent?