Did my ex gf have npd I feel so low as confused ?

She seemed to have almost no empathy for anyone else. She would break promises, lie to my face and not care, it’s like it didn’t happen or it was my fault. She did what she did.
Whenever we argued, she would say how beautiful she was and could have any man she wanted. She was a model and was a massive attention seeker using sex and acting like a lesbian on Twitter before I was with her to get attention.
She got jealous of female members of my family calling them wh**es just because I bought them flowers for their birthdays. She said I should only buy flowers for her and that it was my fault she resented them because I put them first, but I didn’t.
If I got mad at her because of this behavior she would say I’m an abuser telling all her friends and even her friends boyfriends. I admit I did say mean things, but so did she. She said she wanted to kill me and my family and she hoped they all died because I deserve misery for not treating her like the princess she is.
She constantly spoke about how she was a princess and how men hit on her and could never get over her. She was a cam girl and used this money to buy things she could never afford. She said she deserved to live like a princess and above her means, not caring about the hurt this job would do to her mum if she found out, not to mention the pain it caused me. She never felt any remorse for her actions and lies. She wouldn’t even discuss them its as though it didn’t happen.
She would accuse me of not making her feel loved enough. I took her to Paris for the day for her birthday which cost me 600 pounds and she said I was tight. She constantly accused me of looking at other women, which I didn’t dare saying I can only look at her when I’m out not around the room.
She said she didn’t need to keep promises. She would break them, not apologize or even speak about them. She would be violent towards me. I complained and she said I should be embarrassed because I’m a man and she’s a girl, but if someone hits you with boots or kicks you in the chest, it hurts. By the end, she constantly was telling me how her friends were trying up hook her up with other men and she deserved better, I should treat her better, but nothing was good enough for her. Plus I felt unloved myself I refused to give her this admiration she felt she was entitled to. She couldn't handle the slightest criticism from anyone and would say they are haters or omg they are so jealous of me even when she bought a brand new BMW which means she broke a promise to me about stopping her webcam job she said I was so jealous of her because I said I didn't want her getting it. If I mention famous or well known good looking celebrities for any reason she would go mental once I asked if Kim katdashians ass was fake she kicked me in the chest when we were laying on her bed happily and screamed at me for talking about other girls. She told me an endless web of lies and broken promises and when I called her out on them she just acted as though nothing had happend she said I don't have to change for anyone. I suggested she may have npd and that I wanted to help her but she said I was the one with mental health issues not her. She said she's an angel poisoned by an evil devil. When we were in New York I let a girl go through a door I was holding open for my gf after she had walked through and my gf went crazy at me for months about it saying I should only show manners I her and not try and make other bitched as she put it feel special but all I was doing was showing manners which is how English men are raised. By the end I felt like I could do nothing right and was forget apologising. My entire life evolved around her wants and needs and I put all of my second. I still did give her a hard time and questioned her motives behind the lies broken promises I felt as though she didn't love me or even like me anymore even though she swore she loved me and I just didn't treat her good enough. All the promises shd had made when I met her meant nothing to her and by the end she stopped even bothering to lie or make promises at all simply saying I should be happy to me with her as millions of men would kill to be with her no matter how she behaved or what she did . She slagged me off to all her family and friends playing the victim painting me out as the abuser telling them lies or hakf truths that made me look bad.
I became more obsessed with her rather then in love.
I did something hurtful to her and she just shut me out of her life, didn’t even call to end our 2 year relationship. Everything was via text! Within 2 weeks she had met another men whom owns his own business. Within 2 months she’s engaged to him and acts as though she never knew me. When I found this out, I was deeply upset and she told me she’s so in love, he is the one and when you know, you know. She couldn’t understand why I was so hurt at hearing details about their pending marriage. She said she told me because she thought I was over her, but only 2 days before I was asking for her back. She made me feel worthless without her! We argued and she said she’s embarrassed she’s with me, I’m just at law school whereas he’s a real man who owns his own business and does everything for her like open cars door, he never forgets and that’s she realized what real love is now!
I feel as though she completely forgot me in 2 weeks. When I met her she told me things like I was the one too and that we had a magical connection she had never felt before! She says, “I can’t understand why you aren’t happy for me???” She just doesn’t understand that I loved her. We were planing our lives together only 2 months ago!
She said she would have married me but she was only settling because I didn’t treat her how she feels she’s deserves to be treated and so she was only settling with me!
Did she have npd and why did she move on so easily? Does she think this man is better than me or is it just because he does more for her and only sees good in her as he hasn’t seen her other side yet, just like when I first met her I was crazy about her.
Do you think she had npd? Its so soul destroying to love a girl so much and simply not be able to make her happy was it me ? Or was it her condition will she treat this new man the sane in the end ? Because at first she seemed so perfect to me full of promises and speaking about spending our lives together.

Sorry about the poor grammar I wrote this ok my mobile phone and in a rush thank you

Yeah I'd say she has NPD.

And yeah, the new guy is the new toy in her pram & it'll soon be thrown out.

Thing is she is probably not aware, that means she believed almost everything she told you. Especially in the beginning. You did make her feel alive, feel wonderful, amazing, from the attention you gave her, and so the motives behind her promises were all real - and they will be again now.

Maybe in her new relationship she is going to try to do things slightly differently, because it was the things that were done that caused it to fail, not actually her personally.

The stuff about the new guy, some of it may be true, but she's using it as a tool to show you that really she was right all along - she can get a better guy in a heartbeat. Now, whether the guy was a hobo or a business man, you'd be hearing about how wonderful he is.

For the time being for her, you are the metre-stick for the new guy, but she has a nasty surprise ahead when he'll become his own metre-stick. Nasty for both, he'll go the way you went, and she'll be disappointed, again, again another perfect guy crumbles away.. NPD is a really quite intricate, poetically depressing, and fascinating thing (I know you probably don't want to hear that, but it is so incredibly complex it can be hard to understand from out looking in, feel free to ask more.)

Honestly, be very glad you did not marry into that.

All the above's based on the personal opinion she's NPD. She could not be though, she could for example be wrapped up in a rebound - marriage after 2 months is fairly rebound-y.

For my own sick curiosity, could you tell me what you did to hurt her? It's quite hard to deliberately and successfully hurt a narc.

Well by the end of the relationship she constantly went on about how other men wanted her including her ex. When we would argue she would say I've got a date tonight but then she would say she was lying to hurt me. All this pushed me away from her in the end she gave me no attention whatsoever. She caught me speaking to other models behind her back. But for about a week she hardly spoke to me even though she knew because I had exams. She didnt once yell or swear so I say I hurt her but I think maybe it was just her ego that was damaged I had argued with her and seen her cry before but it wasn't a common occurrence.
One thing I would like to ask it whether its common for people with npd to be extremely materialistic ? She went on about how religious she was all the time and yet she was a webcam model and she spent tremendous amounts of money on designer hand bags and brand new cars. She was willing to do anything to live this life style. She said she deserved the best of everything. She also constantly went on about how she was a princess and constantly took photos of herself in sexy clothes or bikinis that when I first met her she would post on twitter clearly for attention. Another thing I noticed is she kept me away from her friends mostly but the ones I did know the ones she had met online they seemed to almost kiss her arse even have the hots for her. I once see a message from her friend who was a girl saying how jealous she was of me getting to sleep with her big curvy arse. I thought this was strange and she had told me herself that this girl was always hitting on her and said she would leave her husband for her. Was this all for attention ? Because when I told her I didnt want her around this girl anymore she went to huge lengths to lie and hide from me the fact they still spoke.

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The most shocking thing for me though was how easily she would lie. From day one she literally lied about everything. She would lie to make herself appear better to me at first and in the end she would lie just to cover up her bad behaviour. However at first when I caught her lying she would show some kind of remorse this did not last long. By the end she would lie to my face and when I caught her out she would ignore it she would just say I don't have to change for anyone I don't have to keep promises. For example I asked her not to do certain things on her webcam. At first she was ok I want you to feel special and wouldn't do stuff. However, she would do more and more and lie about it by the end she just didnt care she said nothing would get away with her making money. When I first met her she promised she would stop the job if we got serious we got serious and she would do more and more. By the end she was forever criticising me saying how she did not feel loved or valued enough but there was no way in this world I could've loved her more I mean I put me needs second behind hers.