Narcs and Animals

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SO after adoring my beautiful cat laying on the floor with her paws in the air, I began to wonder whether you other narcs adore/hate animals.

For me my precious cat is my constant supply, if the world got me down my cat comes to me lovingly giving me some supply. It definitely doesn't fill up my needs but it certainly adds. I adore her and treat her soooo lovingly and my roommates cat, well she's cute but I don't give her near the attention as my little narc princess. Cat's are narcissists and nobody seems to have a problem with them.

The thing is, when she dies I don't know how I feel. She ran away for a month and I didn't care, but when she came back I was like sweet! Sometimes she pisses me off wondering if she only cares about me because I feed her.

So do you guys have pets, if you do tell me what connection they have to you. If you don't, do you dislike them or?

I personally hate most animals, I just like cats. I hate dogs, won't even walk by one. They just disgust me. Yuck.

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The cat is the perfect animal for a Narcissist, IMO, because the cat is essentially a Narcissist itself and is looking to form a superficial relationship based on mutual admiration and doesn't show real love or expect it in return. I've had cats before, and they get along very well with me. They, like me, are independent and would view other life forms as a means to an end. I respect cats. I feel like I would be a horrible dog owner. Not only do dogs require excessive attention, from my point of view, but a dog would truly love me, something that I can't deal with, and would expect my love in return, something I wouldn't be able to give.

Cats are the cutest N's on the planet:-)
My cat was independent, but he also didnt wander too far away. He followed me weverywhere.
Dogs are good, but I have o time for them. They are needy.

Cats are clean, elegant, give affection when they chose to, discerning about who they like, independent, low maintenance, cute, well groomed, agile, lithe, disobedient, random and aloof when they want to be. They have this habit of falling and then looking as if to say "Me? I didn't do that....."as they walk off in a dignified manner.

Dogs are robust, noisy, demanding, cute, sometimes aggressive, sometimes smelly, loyal to a fault, even if they have a cruel owner because they're pack animals and some dogs will try to be top dog or leader of the pack. They're also greedy - eating literally anything, messy, clumsy, cumbersome, intelligent, obedient, high maintenance, dislike being alone, and they'd poop everywhere if you didn't train them.

I put people into two categories - Cat people and Dog people. It doesn't matter if they don't own a cat or a dog - somehow they remind me of either cats or dogs. Cats are always "female", irrespective of their actual gender, and dogs are likewise always "male"

I don't have a dog but have had dogs before. I presently have a cat. I'm much more of a cat person - both in preferences and in the way I come across.

Narcissists could own either cats or dogs for different reasons. A sleek pedigree dog could appea
l to a narcissist's need to make a good impression and a cat could appeal to their low level supply needs. In their ways both cats and dogs can be rather narcissistic.

I love animal but I see how I 'can't' love it like normals do.
For example I would forget to give it food for long time and it will come beg for food and i will be annoyed and won't give it still.
I feel annoyed that the cat can't admire me for my look, etc,
and that it doesn't listen to me, etc.

Though it doesn't mean I don't love it.
Compared to most people I spend a lot of percentage of my money for the cat or pet I have
instead spending it for me.

I used to feel really annoyed when some people compliment puppy/kitty for how cute they are,
but as my PD heals, become less extreme, I began to be able to love the animals genuinely like I did before. And I prefer dogs. They make me : 'XDDDDDDDD AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW AWWWWWW'

and to almost faint

I have always been a cat person. I have also always HATED dogs to the point where they disgust me with their neediness and dog owners get on my nerves with how they enjoy an animal being up their ass. Dogs are like children and I HATE children even more than I do dogs. However, I seem to have cats that are not as independent as the cats I have had in the past. I can be mean to my cats at times if they want too much attention from me. It stresses me out very easily to the point where I think about getting rid of them because I feel like I cant love them enough. I like to enjoy animals from a distance. I like to know they are there and see them moving around, but I don't like when they claw at me for love. Every time I am ever mean to an animal I do feel incredibly guilty afterwards, so I am getting better at this because I know how bad it makes me feel. Im just so impulsive when I get annoyed or angry that I dont really realize what Im doing and dont have any feelings towards what Im doing as im doing it.

I can have way more love for an animal than a human. With the exception of my new BF I have never experienced guilt after treating someone "badly". And I would have no problem, or...yeah I would actually ENJOY killing a human that hurts an animal. Even though I hate dogs, I would kill a person who hurts them. I have experienced a weird occurrence lately though. For the past two weeks I have felt an interest in small dogs that I have no idea whats happening to me. I have been working through my disorder since becoming self aware and I am in a relationship that has been very different since trying to work out things. I have been doing human things like forgiving and being vulnerable to a slight degree and Im wondering if I am slowly recovering and perhaps my narc heart is melting from its freeze and all the sudden I like dogs? lol. I dont know but I do know that I am scared to actually have one because Im afraid I might turn on it. I dont quite trust myself.

your cats are "clawing at you for love" ? are you sure they're not just both bored and feeling friendly/affectionate ? (or just clawing at you )

i think the problem with NPD is that it makes people take other people's actions way too seriously as about/centred on them, so when people (or cats, lol) are casual/friendly and fancy a little affection they see them as desperate clinging sycophants instead of just coming over to say hello get a stroke or two and nibble at you, then walk off again... instead, these horrible clingy cats just keep coming to suffocate you in their neediness.. must be frightening

They're probably just using you as a scratching post

Cats aren't needy. Hmph. Who wants my cat then. She is worse than my dog and she lives outside.

She sits outside my front door and will just stare at you or watch whatever is going on in the house. Though in her defense it is also her way of politely implying she needs food. I think sometimes she actually pushes her little plastic bowl to the door.

If I take my dog for a walk my cat walks with us too. Minus the leash.

If I am outside she will make sure to cover me in cat hair. Especially now that the weather is warmer and she is shedding all her winter hair. And a cat....they don't care if you say no. No comprehension of boundaries at all. I take that back. I think she does know. She just doesn't care.

And at night when I swing. She finds an area within view and she waits for me to finish. As soon as the swing begins to slow she is in front of me ready to jump up next to me. She will then sit there or lie there while she gets her fill of affection.

I must admit to liking that though. It's soothing. And sweet.

My dog on the other hand. He is a little 5 pound lap dog. He just wants a warm body to be snuggled against. Makes no demands at all. And doesn't bring me gifts of dead mice, birds and baby moles to my door step.

Ahh......gifts of mice. Apparently it's the highest compliment a cat can give you. I once had a cat who came home with someone's prize carp in her mouth which she deposited on the doorstep. It must have cost whoever it belonged to a fortune. Definitely a narcy cat. No mice for her.

katana wrote:your cats are "clawing at you for love" ? are you sure they're not just both bored and feeling friendly/affectionate ? (or just clawing at you )

i think the problem with NPD is that it makes people take other people's actions way too seriously as about/centred on them, so when people (or cats, lol) are casual/friendly and fancy a little affection they see them as desperate clinging sycophants instead of just coming over to say hello get a stroke or two and nibble at you, then walk off again... instead, these horrible clingy cats just keep coming to suffocate you in their neediness.. must be frightening

They're probably just using you as a scratching post

lol. They come up to me when Im sitting at my computer and claw at my leg and try to jump up on my lap cause they want to sit on me. Or they jump up on my computer desk if I refuse their offer and sit there staring right into my face. I dont understand what they want. I feed them and pet them and kiss them through out the day and still they want more....its just stressful. But i totally agree with you in that narcs take things way seriously and give simple gestures way more significance and power than whats actually happening. My cats wanting attention feels like they are clawing the skin off my face most times like I cant get away from them, yet they are just simply touching my leg and wanting to sit on my lap for a couple seconds. I know this , but for some reason I still cant deal.