Parents Pose a Pretty Potent Problem

Here's the deal. Ever since I've been a toddler. My parents have been spent on creating problems for me -- finding problems in me. Medical problems. First it was enuresis (bed-wetting) which was an assault of 5-6 docotrs. Next it was food allergies, which was extensive testing and a barrage of doctors. Then it was a variety of psychological disorders ranging from panic attacks, to bipolar, to anxiety disorder (which was handfuls of psychiatrists).

Now unlike hypochondriacs who willingingly choose to go see doctors and don't really have a disorder, I was forced by parents to go see all these doctors who simply manufactured that I have a problem, when I don't. The only problem I have is a financial one, but they love trying to take care of emotional, psychological, or physical problems, but I don't have any of those. I'm quite sure that they have a variety of psychological issues that they project onto me -- their oldest son.

It's their way of feeling intimate and as though they can care about their child. I'm 23 now and realize how abusive it's been. They really couldn't have parented any worse. Atleast if they physically abused me (beat me), I would have been aware of the abuse, but this was worse because it was so destructive

You can make the case that these are out of "concern" and "caring", but doing so would be a fallacious error because this is abuse.

I'm curious if anyone can relate to this. I'm still financially dependent on the bastards, but if I wasn't, because they so blindly try to create problems for me, I would be long gone.

Again, I'm posting to see if any has had similar experiences to hear their thoughts and how they dealt.

I am aware of MBPS, my parent's condition and the similarity to it, the presence of a MBPS forum, and the like, but any attempt to help is much appreciated. Chiyo (from another forum) did provide a single fact of new information: "in order to play a martyr role parents fabricate or create illnesses to earn sympathy?" Don't understand that. Martyrdom is dying for a cause, who's being the martyr? the parents in mbps? that confused me. I definitely understand how they fabricate or create illnesses to gain sympathy -- sympathy is a goal with MPBS?, but whom do they gain sympathy from? Other parents, sympathy from whom? Sympathy from the child? I don't think that's accurate at all. The parents would fabricate an illness to then get the "rewards of curing" and being "in control" of their child's health, right?

My parents don't "cause illness" but they fabricate them so strongly and viciously that you practically end up believing you have an ailment, which is perceptively, identical to actually having it.

If I've been tangled up in MBPS, it would be helpful to learn about answers to the questions I just posted and more, and most importantly the safest way out of the quagmire -- fast and effectively!!

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Not all martyrs die for a cause. Here is an example of a living martyr.

"My daughter is always sick. She is in a and out of psych wards and rehab. She cuts herself frequently and threatens suicide daily. When she is out, I am caring for her around the clock. I walk around on eggshells. She is so violent and unpredictable. When she is in her own home, she drinks and takes drugs and calls me to tell me she has taken an overdose. By the time I get to her home the ambos have already been there and taken her to the hospital to get her stomach pumped. Then I have to sign forms to have her sectioned. I've lost count of how many thousands of hours I have sat in hospital corridors wondering if today is the day that she will die and there was nothing I could do to help. Of course if she died I would get the plethora of flowers and sympathy that I constantly crave. Please please please everyone notice me. Look at how haggard and sick I have become because of my childs' illnesses. I want everyone to feel sorry for me and to pat me on the back for being so selfless and sacrificing all in the name of my daughter's survival. If it weren't for my daughter being sick all the time, I would have no qualities of my own to identify with. I am the one who has to suffer all the time. Nobody cares about me me me." Martyrdom will bring adulation and pats on the back, or so she hopes.

About your financial situation. Is it possible that they have deliberately made you beholden to them in this way because you are an adult and can legally make your own medical decisions now?

I am so sorry you are going through this.