Hi I'm new to this forum

My handle is Seranamomma. I'm such an idiot. I misspelled my own handle and will have to live with it because I wanted to be Serama Momma because I raise this miniature breed of chickens. I will try to breed my King Charles Cavalier Spaniel dogs as well. I bought champion dogs but they can't seem to get their act together (literally LOL!).

I just had the most horrible experience on another forum where for some reason two women started to dislike me intensely and I don't know why because I was really nice to them offering them airline tickets and I never criticize or post anything negative. I feel these forums are a plade where people come for support. Long story short, three or moderators went overboard on my diary (and they never even commented or likes or anything my diary) Well, I am not stupid because people were getting banned and disappearing all the time but another member voiced her anger and disgust for the moderators horrible behavior (and she was banned forever). Then a month later a member found the posts of the moderators and voiced her opinion and MY DIARY was deleted and purged and I just can't stand to go back on there.

Also, I did meet someone that I became friends with (or so I though) and saw how cruel the moderators and I found out that she is friends with them and they post on each other's diaries every day. I felt so betrayed because I had a $150 in expenses from overage from listening to thie woman getting hysterical over things. Yes, I realized she was hystrionic and hypochondriac but I was nice to them.

So here I am!! I am doing well with DBT and hope to find other people who use this. My life has changed with DBT. I have a history of horrific childhood abuse and I still seem to attract unhealthy people. With DBT, I practic mindfullness and write down my automatic thoughts and challenge them. I was on the last forum for years, had many friends and almost wrote in my diary and I feel so violated and betrayed right now.

However DBT is making my real life relationships much better as I don't just assume someone's motivation, I ask them. I look for healthy people in recovery!

Hugs to all!!

Hi.

I'll do the mod stuff, first. Since it was a misspell, if you want to change your handle, PM me and I'll take care of it - make sure to PM the exact spelling/spacing you want. I'm a new green (super mod), so I'm still not quite sure of the extent of my powers yet, but if I can't, then I'll talk to someone who can.

I won't comment on how the mods are here, because, as I mentioned, I'm one of them. I'm sure others here will be more than willing to tell you what they think of us (probably in PM, so we don't see)! I'm sure there are people who don't particularly like some of us (myself included), but I think overall, no one's too grumpy with us.

DBT? That'd make you BPD, then? Welcome to the club, and you have my condolences. It definitely ain't an easy thing to live with, is it? Once you start poking around here, check out the BPD section; we've got some pretty good people there.

Welcome to the nuthouse.

Oh no! I'm not bi-polar at all. I have had friends that were bi-polar or had multiple personalities. I say I had these friends because they disappear for months and it's hard to keep a friendship going like that. I have Complex PTSD. I am very high functioning.

DBT was only used for borderline personality disorder but now "normal" people are using the techniques of mindfulness and being aware and challenging your automatic thoughts. When I first started I never realized negative assumpstions I had. As I have been doing this for about four months now, I had only positive responses when I clarified what people were saying.

I was a project manager and if you have authority over anyone, there are going to be people that are angry and feel abused. My experience was bullying. I thought I can avoid the bullying (criticizing everything that I wrote or any suggestons) by staying only on my diary but they attacked me on there. Some friends stood up for me and were banned. It was run by man who has a huge ego and is really rude. So I found out that there a lot of forums that can easily become unhealthy. I just want to keep a diary or thread on my DBT and reflect on what I am learning from it.

I'm leaving my handle as is as a reminder to me to wear my reading glasses. The type on this thread is very small and I so I could easily spell incorrectely and not even see it.

Hugs,
SM

Hello and welcome.

I'm sorry to hear about your experience on the other forum. Hopefully you like it here and get the help and support you are after. In my experience, people are really friendly and nice here.