Hey there

I'm new the the forum. I'd like to take this opportunity to say Hi to everyone here and to introduce myself.

I live a relatively stress free life, I don't have many committments or a huge amount of responsibilities.

Although for the past few months I've started building an extremely tight relationship with someone... although some major events have occurred that concern me immensly...

I'm desperate for answers, I've searched all over the web. Telling me to phone doctors and such will not work, coz I live 3000 miles away from this special person...

Please check my posts in the Dissociative Fugue section and also the Alzheimer>Amnestic part of the forum.

I'm begging you all

Hey XLeoD,

I read your other post but in no way feel qualified/experienced enough to answer. I wasn't even too sure what Dissoc. Fugue was when I read it, and I had to look it up on the internet to be sure. I still don't feel comfortable replying to it now, to be honest, but hopefully someone else with more experience will reply soon. You seem committed to that girl though, and I'm sure that you have the know-how to deal with this. All problems can be either solved or accomodated in life... ...there is always a way through a problem and we should never let anything push us back.

Take care dude,
Kevin

thanks

Yes I am very committed... but it's hard to feel useful when I'm many hundreds of miles away.

Plans for her to come to my country.. get a place and live together and even plans to spend the rest of our lives together. Sounds like an immature plan made by naive kids (although we aren't kids) in love. Although I really felt the beginning of a 'new life'.

It's why this situation is burning me up so much... I don't have the money to go see her, I don't have the money for anything... I wish there was a job where I didn't have to leave the house.

Life sucks -.-

Hmm, that sounds good, but please don't lose track of the essentials that must always be done in life, such as maintaining your job, getting bills paid, etc. These things will never go away, and life - it seems - cannot be dominated 100% by love. Plan this thing out methodically and logiclly. You don't want to put too much effort in it for it to fail, do you? This girl has issues that she must face, and simply moving abroad won't solve them. It might mask them for a while, but they will resurface.

Kevin

yeah... very true.

'love' is such a f*cking annoying thing lol. It's awesome but it makes me rage.
I'm gonna focus on getting stuff done, so that maybe more than 1 person will think well of me

...does that mean 'keeping your options open'? - Is that what you're saying? I've had long distance crushes before too and I lost control of the emotions. It killed me (not literally).

Kevin

i don't know really... it's a tough question >.<
I'm quite devoted to this girl, would kill for her... but its just such a messed up situation.. idk

XLeoD wrote:i don't know really... it's a tough question >.<
I'm quite devoted to this girl, would kill for her... but its just such a messed up situation.. idk

That's not good really, is it? If you die then she'll be without you. I'm half-joking, but the other half is trying to make you realise that maybe your emotions right now aren't quite 'there'. I'd go so far as to say that maybe you're deeply infatuated with the girl, and maybe it's not genuine love yet. Sometimes when we like something/someone and cannot have it immediately, it plays on our minds and heightens passion we feel for it/them.

Kevin

Yeah, the term 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' isn't a lie.

I really do love this girl... but knowing that it could be days.. weeks or months or even years till she returns to her normal state... I just don't know what my limit of patience is... how many more days till I get bored? should I look for someone else in the mean time? what if I find someone else then my old girl starts remembering things... unless I make a bond stronger than I made with her (which I find unlikely)..then it's going to result in 3 times the amount of stress.

Maybe you're looking too far ahead right now. Why not enjoy the moment that you and her have now? Don't imagine what the future might bring. You enjoy talking to her over the Internet and that is what you must focus on. In the future, maybe the situation will change. I cannot guarantee that you and her will always be together, but I know from experience that looking too far ahead can bring problems that might not otherwise have appeared.

Hope that makes sense my friend.

Kevin