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Hello! I'm new here, obviously, so I wanted to say hi and put myself out there. I've been married for four years to a great guy, we don't have any kids yet, and we both work full-time day jobs. For the most part, things work really well between us. I love him so much and I know he loves me just as much. But some days.. You know, when it rains, it pours. When it comes down to it, I know that marriage is hard, no matter how well you get along with your spouse. But I know that we should get therapy and that would greatly benefit us as a couple. We've never had mental health coverage until recently, so I've been thinking about it more and more. He has mentioned that we should get it when we've been fighting, but when we settle down and I bring up the subject, he's opposed and will not discuss it further. I just don't understand why he would be so opposed to it one minute and then say that we need it another minute.

I'm pretty sure that I can get us in there eventually, but until that point, I'd like to have a place where I can talk to other people about our situation. I've been on forums before and they just worked great. I'm close with my family, but it just makes me feel better to talk to unbiased parties about my personal life. ANYWAY! So, this is why I am here. I look forward to conversing with everyone!

Hi,

Mayb what you both could do is arrang a certain date/time to discuss everything and arrange a course of action for the future. If you just bring it up 'randomly', then it'll most likely upset him. You both need to be in the right frame of mind to talk about this, so set the time and date for it. Maybe you won't even have to see a professional if you get this 'meeting' right. You could both also try reminding each other of why you agreed to marry in the first place. the tolls that daily life takes on us can make us easily forget about what's really important in life - i.e. companionship and love.

Why did you marry him...?; what made him stand out from the crowd?

Kevin