by sleepanswers » Mon Mar 03, 2014 1:11 am
Hi Renee,
I'm sorry to hear about your sleep problems. I know exactly what you are going through; I had severe chronic insomnia for almost 20 years. I've been able to overcome it and get off all the medications I was taking (SSRIs, Ambien, Ativan). I've been sleeping well for 3 years now.
Here are some things you can try that might help:
First, make sure that you are not staying in bed too long. I used to think I had to be in bed for 10 hours just to get 7 hours of sleep. But all that time spent in bed not sleeping just caused a lot of frustration and worry, which in turn caused me to not be able to sleep at all. So if your optimal amount of sleep is 7 hours, you should spend no more than 7 1/2 hours in bed.
Second, worrying about your sleep and thinking negatively about it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. It only causes more sleeplessness.
Whenever you think about your sleep and start getting frustrated or anxious about it, stop and take a moment to identify what it is you are feeling. Are you experiencing frustration, anger, anxiety, fear, discomfort, judgment, sadness? Once you identify what it is you're feeling, then just ACCEPT it. Don't try to resist it or fight it, just let yourself feel it. ("I'm feeling frustration right now, and it's OK") Then consciously LET GO of the feeling. Feel it leaving your body as you exhale.Keep doing this with every emotion that comes up until you feel a little bit of peace.Then just relax into the peace that you feel. As you practice this, it gets easier and easier to let go of these feelings.
If you do this throughout the day whenever you have any thoughts about your sleep, you will begin to feel more peace and less resistance to falling asleep.
I hope this helps. Keep us posted on how you are doing.