good sex or good attention ?

Posted this as a question.
In my experience of my HPD contact the sex would be the main thing she would talk about, however reading through this forum you wander if what she was saying was true.
Anyway looking for feedback from mainly HPD users to what is the most important good sex or good attention being received.

I think with mine it was the seduction she liked.

Very often for a person with HPD, the sex is a means to an end for attention. They will often choose the path of least resistance, which may happen to be sex and seduction etc. Some people with HPD will use other means to gain attention. The core issue they are dealing with is an unhealthy desire for attention.

I think my Ex HPD seduced guys to feel poweful..or something like that.

She was a 10.......and a struggling model.........

She looked a lot like "Robin", on how I Met Your Mother...........

But she didn't think she was really beautiful (?????????)

She seduced me a time or two to keep me from leaving her.

But the last time......it didn't work. and she was shocked.

Really shocked.

The spell had been broken.

when i had exs,
i would talk about sexual things.... cuz i liked it LOL and i wouldn't talk about other things because
i didn't have any special feeling for the exs that would let me to enjoy talking about other things. if he started to talk about other things i got bored and annoyed. but one of my ex explained my such behavior as 'not liking real sex, but extremely strong desire for affetcion/care' he said i am so so so deficit of love and he concerned for me. hmmm so i think it's more related to attention cuz
HPDS ARE OFTEN FRIGID(?) HPDS DON'T FEEL MUCH ANYTHING IN SEX( i have some shallow sexual experienes and not real sex- i can tell i didn't physically feel much anything but i LOVED it anyway and i think if i do sex now i'd feel a lot of thing lol)


anyway since one point....something changed
like i talk about sex and only sex(not with my bf though )
and that's because i'm afraid of disappointing the guy or he'd give me less frequent/strong attention.
you should be a girl, and talk to a guy(not just met), and feel like how it is
you just talk to him casually, he might often talk to you at the same time while doing something else
but you start talking about sex,
he would suddenly strongly focus on you and talk to you
sometimes i try to talk about other thing than sex(when it seems like the man got lessened interest in the sex subject)
but there is certain atmosphere change(?) which makes me to think
'did he get a bit disappointed?!' rather than 'where's my attention?'
HPDS DON'T WANT TO DISAPPOINT THE MEN(FATHER) SO WE TALK ABOUT SEX TO NOT DISAPPOINT YOU rather than for getting attention(narc reason) -that 's how i honestly feel.

i remember arguing with a guy.
i said 'i want to have a sex with someone i don't love, i don't want to have a sex with someone i love'
and he said 'WHAT? IT'S OPPOSITE'
and i said 'what do you mean opposite? I AM RIGHT'

I am not sure if why i was strongly believing like that...
hmmm... like, someone you like is, so precious you don't want to have a sex with him,
? may be i thought so. But now i kind of think it's right to have sex with someone u like

all of my exs said

'yyy you love kiss&hug so much, how'd u gonna live with out it?
Poor yyy, such a love-deficit, need a lot of love n care'

emphasized me

cuz i am always like
kiss kiss kiss me!!!!!! ?
lol

(they didn't know anything about me which they'd empathize, and i wasn't depressed or anything. anyway they pitied me)

In my experience after reflection the HPD chases you catches you the sex is great which is a form of attention then they leave you ?
So once the seduction is over I suppose its onto the next source. But if that fails then like a boomerang they return

when my ex tried to have a sex with me,
i broke up with him. hmm i don't know why, he wasn't forcing it,
but... anyway i broke up.

but well, think about it whiteknight,

culturally and universally and biologically,
it's MAN who lose interest in woman after sex
now she f*cked you, she probably feared that you'd like her less(and less sexually attracted) so left you,

i was watching a tv show yeserday and it was all about
how men lose interest in women after sex, how men lose interest in women after marriage
etc, etc!
it's YOUR fault. (LOL SHIFTING RESPONSIBLITY but FACE IT)

If man gave 'increased attention' after sex,
there wouldn't be any woman in the world who...
anyway?

I like sex A LOT. And I like the attention from it.

To me, it's win win.

When my exboyfriend didn't want to have sex with me, it hurt me more than anything. I felt undesirable. It was the worst thing he could do to me...

van4ssa wrote:It was the worst thing he could do to me...

Sounds like you did it to yourself.