Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on purpose?
i was just thinking about this.. my mom always told me all abou thow her family members were all very very successful etc... but she never said anything or did anything to imply she enjoyed it...
but my dad was always like "oh you want to be the one with all the power when you grow up!" and he was always talking about how great it would be to be a "doctor" etc.
Do they do this $#%^ on purpose to "program me" or is it like something that just "occurs" naturally?
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Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on purpose
by thisislabor » Wed Mar 21, 2012 7:20 am
When the time comes there will not be enough people to bury the dead.
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Re: Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on pur
by lodi dodi » Wed Mar 21, 2012 8:53 am
Maybe they're jealous or know how it feels like to be someone's lapdog and don't want you to end up there.
I think they're being too persuasive, I'd just end up in an argument...
I think they're being too persuasive, I'd just end up in an argument...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N1VnZDQSNao
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Re: Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on pur
by xdude » Wed Mar 21, 2012 2:15 pm
Gut reaction -
UGH! They sound clueless and their ego is threatened by other people's successes, including your successes as well as potential in the future.
Hope that's not too honest. It happens, unfortunately that some parents are ego weak and take it out on their children
UGH! They sound clueless and their ego is threatened by other people's successes, including your successes as well as potential in the future.
Hope that's not too honest. It happens, unfortunately that some parents are ego weak and take it out on their children
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Re: Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on pur
by thisislabor » Wed Mar 21, 2012 4:34 pm
i agree with you xdude, and quite frankly i don't think your being "too honest".
actually lately, your posts have been very very helpful to me. I'm not going to say they were that way before when i first started posting here every day, but last month or so quite a bit. since "OK" left, i have found a lot more insight on this forum.
it may have just been that "OK" is too full of insight for me too see but... *shrugs* may just be where I am at in my life.
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actually lately, your posts have been very very helpful to me. I'm not going to say they were that way before when i first started posting here every day, but last month or so quite a bit. since "OK" left, i have found a lot more insight on this forum.
it may have just been that "OK" is too full of insight for me too see but... *shrugs* may just be where I am at in my life.
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Re: Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on pur
by xdude » Thu Mar 22, 2012 3:04 am
labor -
The difference between me and OK is OK didn't have a cluster B parent, or in your case possibly two.
So for OK he got involved with a HPD woman, which is chosen relationship.
As a child of one or possibly two cluster B parents you had no choice, and it's a difference few can fathom. Chosen vs un-chosen.
There is one thing you can chose though... and that's a choice to get out of the household you live in now. Someway, somehow, i can't recommend enough that you do that. It's step #1 and a necessary step to finding some sense of normalcy.
You have time after that to figure out whats going on between you and your parents.
Feel free to PM me anytime.
The difference between me and OK is OK didn't have a cluster B parent, or in your case possibly two.
So for OK he got involved with a HPD woman, which is chosen relationship.
As a child of one or possibly two cluster B parents you had no choice, and it's a difference few can fathom. Chosen vs un-chosen.
There is one thing you can chose though... and that's a choice to get out of the household you live in now. Someway, somehow, i can't recommend enough that you do that. It's step #1 and a necessary step to finding some sense of normalcy.
You have time after that to figure out whats going on between you and your parents.
Feel free to PM me anytime.
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Re: Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on pur
by thisislabor » Thu Mar 22, 2012 3:16 am
I never really thought about it before but yea... I guess your right they could have some kind of cluster B personality disorder too.
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Re: Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on pur
by crystal_richardson_ » Thu Mar 22, 2012 4:07 am
labour, have you ever considered just leaving your parents? Like...forever?
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Re: Do my parents try to put these ideas into my head on pur
by yYyYy » Thu Mar 22, 2012 11:11 am
ahh labor 
come to Asia and become English teacher and live with me <3
be my puppy <3 <3 <3 plz? im lonely
come to Asia and become English teacher and live with me <3
be my puppy <3 <3 <3 plz?
im lonely
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