HPD and crime/ civil judgements

Regarding crimes associated with relationships:

Disturbing the peace
Assault/battery
Aggravated assault/ assault with a deadly weapon
vandalism
theft
burglary
stalking
sexual battery
Statutory rape
forcible rape
Murder

Or similar matters civil...
defamation
divorce
custody disputes
harassment suits
etc.

Have you as HPD been a victim or perpetrator of any of the above? Nons can respond with anecdotal info as well but please all parties be objective and respectful.

Hey Orion.

I have not been a victim or a perp regarding any of these.

I do not have anything on my record other than a few speeding tickets. Never been to jail or even in court proceedings.


I Was taken advantage of at a younger teen-ager age but he was only 17 and although built like a man in. His 20s was not yet an adult. I had never done anything other than kiss a boy up until that moment. I thought I could handle myself but he was too over powering. He did not hurt me or "rape " me in that aspect. He more or less coerced and coaxed me and allthough I said no he did anyway. I never could express how it made me feel until I saw oprah explain how her relative raped her and that perps make you feel like you are a willing participant.

So whether or not I was raped is up for debate depending on who is placing judgement. But what came after that night changed me forever when he humiliated me and told everyone and I did feel like I had been stripped of all must dignity for all the world to see me.

I swore of never let Boy or man ever hurt me again. And I didn't. But I dd a lot of hurting others after that in which I regret.

My parents new nothing of this. I never told my mom til about ten years ago when we were on the outs. Parents were not around to stop me from getting in that van with a practical grown man. I wish they had been.

Sorry if I veered a little. But wanted to explain I'm not one to just claim I was raped because of hpd. I would never make someone that was brutally raped feel I'm comparing because I would never.

It made me am over protective mother and not be too trusting with people and my girls.
Scarlett

No need to apologize Scarlett and thanx for your post. By the way I'm not trying to imply that HPD's have the same proclivity to perpetrate crime as some AsPDs but on the other hand certain widely distributed HPD characteristics seem to have the likelihood of a greater probability of them being victims of various crimes such as sexual assaults as you describe. Perhaps some of the younger women can take heed and make proper changes to reduce the chances ...other HPD's might as a result of marital or long term relationship discord might find themselves on both the receiving and /or giving end of domestic violence...just my intuition, nothing cast in stone and no judgements.

My HPD was not as classy as Miss Scarlett............


No, my HPD was an alley cat!

She stabbed me once ........

She slammed her car into my car once.........

She beat the crap out of her mother........

But she had a good side too.........

Wiser wrote: My HPD was not as classy as Miss Scarlett............


No, my HPD was an alley cat!

She stabbed me once ........

She slammed her car into my car once.........

She beat the crap out of her mother........

But she had a good side too......... A little Wisernow

I have no idea why, but god that made me laugh! lol Especially when you wrote, she had her good side too! lol

Sorry Wiser and do hope you are not offended and understand why it struck me so funny. I do hope you can look back on it now and have a laugh.

You met one wild beast. HPD or not.

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I can kinda laugh about it................


She was like "Madonna" with much more "attitude"..........


Totally wild...............

ABSOULTELY NOTHING BABY

My ex , a fully diagnosed HPD, was charged and convicted with harrassment and now has a restraining order/peace bond on her.

Regret having to do that, but she left me no choice.

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hmmmm...well i am not HP, but I was with a girl for 14 months that fits the disingenous Histrionic. My impressions are that at least this type of histrionic person is too intelligent, pragmatic, shrewd and even cowardly to fall into major problems with the law, or with a specific person. It might happen, but it would be an accident of sorts, not the norm to expose themselves enough to be caught. I think anything that could be perceived to others (friends, relatives, lovers, exes) as bad, wrong, strange or some mix of these; would be done with a great deal of discretion, perhaps from the shadows. Remember they have a facade to maintain! I also don't think they are viscious enough in general to deliberately want to go against the law or hurt others; rather clumsy with others when it comes to catering for their own needs. They would be unlikely to openly expose themselves to toruble, and would make efforts to cover their tracks. My few cents worth based upon my own experiences.

Musician.

I agree Musician. Crime or civil judgements are probably not a typical thing for "most HPD's". In my case, I truly believe my ex-hpd did not feel she was doing anything wrong. I guess that's why she didn''t stop. Who knows?

There are numerous studies linking crime and criminal acts to personality disorders or cluster B's or mental disorders in general. Also these studies suggest, a high percentage of inmates are diagnosed with cluster B's disorders. However, in most these case, there has been proven to be, a strong indication of ASPD traits overlap. It also suggests, the higher the degree and severity of the ASPD traits involved, the more serious the crime. There is alot of overlap amoung cluster B, but the ASPD traits appear to be the "main culprit" according to the studies that link crime to cluster B's. Those with strong NPD traits second. Those with both severe NPD and ASPD traits, supposably the worse.

I not so sure that anyone can state that "HPD triats on there own", can truly be link to crime. To me I don't see the correlation, unless you mix in alot of severe ASPD traits.

My thoughts anyway.

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