What lengths will someone with HPD go to? Should I worry?

I just read this article on the"Profile of a Sociopath". http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html

It filled me with fright. I've seen a lot of stories on here about character defamation being done by someone with HPD but not much on physical violence. What lengths will they go to? Since I broke it off with this woman and have been cold ever since - only responding to tell her to stop contacting me and now I will block her emails - should I be fearful? Am I overreacting and being paranoid?

Principled Man wrote:I just read this article on the"Profile of a Sociopath". http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html

It filled me with fright. I've seen a lot of stories on here about character defamation being done by someone with HDP but not much on physical violence. What lengths will they go to? Since I broke it off with this woman and have been cold ever since - only responding to tell her to stop contacting me and now I will block her emails - should I be fearful? Am I overreacting and being paranoid?

Firstly, please stop saying HDP. It's HPD.

Anyway you don't really have much to worry about as HPDs are only partial sociopaths. The page you linked is talking about real AsPD sociopaths. Physical violence could be possible from the HPD but unlikely unless she is co-morbid with BPD.

If you don't respond to her for long enough she might try showing up at places you go to to try get your attention or a reaction of some sort. I wouldn't be worried about her doing anything volatile, she will probably attempt emotional manipulation, jealousy games, mind games etc but that shouldn't affect you since you should be emotionally detached from the HPD.

I fixed it. Thanks for the advice. Now to stop obsessing.

Hi Principled Man:
I have not read about your particular story yet but I think you may be worrying too much. There is a form of HPD called the disingeneous HPD, and this type of person does have Anti-Social personality characteristics also as described in the link you sent. Based upon my account to my then Psychotherapist, she said to me that she thought my X had the Disingineous type of Hysterical personality. That prepared me and frightened simultaneously, you shall often read the word "frightened" in my posts. With hindsight i would say it is because she is someone that confused me and was totally unpredictable, not more. However, I too then read up on all the type of information you sent in your link, but unless you are interested in that anyway, the information is likely to be useless as you are unlikely to have to prepare yourself for anything of any real danger. Sure they like to play mind games, sure my X popped up in the most unexpected places, and perhaps tried some in-direct stalking, but she never tried to harm me or my family. I think she was simply amusing herself by upsetting me (which she managed very well...) Strange calls at home, being followed by your X, or seeing her hanging round your neighbourhood shall not harm you. With 4 years of hindsight and much knowledge in hand, i would say there is really not much to worry about apart from a little mind f*cking.

Cheers Musician

l agree with Musician. Histrionics may be many things but they are not bunny boilers! Sociopaths are entirely different. l was reading through the Sociopaths forum and did not spend much time there because they exhibited a weird sort of coldness that chilled me. lt was apparent from the way they worded their posts. lt came across in everything they said. lt was as if they were displaying a sarcastic, chilling form of amusement(?) (if that is the right word). Read their threads and you will see what l mean. My ex was a sociopath and he was, for want of a better word, chilling, cold and evil, devoid of any emotion, even the imitation shallow emotion of a histrionic. He had no feelings whatsoever, no feelings of low self esteem, no feelings of anger. The anger that he displayed was calculated, deliberate, used as a means of control and to inflict fear. l do not even believe that sociopathy is a personality disorder. l believe that they are born that way. They cannnot be cured, they will not respond to therapy. They are bad seeds. When l have sufficientlhy recovered to work in therapy, l want to specialise in personality disorders, but l will refuse to treat sociopaths. During the worst parts off my disorder l was never violent, never felt a need to be violent. Violence in TV and movies upsets and disturbs me and l will not watch it, and that was also true during the height of my disorder. Sometimes l would think, as we all do "Oh l could throttle so and so" but l never acted on it. lt is said that histrionics are partial sociopaths and that is true in the sense that they are egocentric and have no empathy, have poor impulse control and tend not to learn from their own mistakes, and sociopathy may be co morbid with HPD, but l would say, try not to worry. lt is always important to keep yourself safe, and no one can predict anyone elses actions but try to keep a perspective. lf at any

...cont...time you are genuinely fearful, then call the police, but l would try to keep things in perspective.

Ps read the thread entitled "l'm an industrial psycopath, l don't want to be identified" on the antisocial personality disorder forum for an example of what l mean. Chilling.

Hi all. Been "lurking" in the background but I want to add my two cents worth here. I worked with an HPD who caused me to be fired, then took out not one , but two Personal Protection Orders, as well as made a formal complaint against my professional license. In all I spent probably $10K in legal fees, not to mention the aggravation of her calling my wife to tell her how deranged I was. Her husband threatened me, but no violence ever happened. Don't underestimate their abilities, and don't try to "one up" them.

I agree with mabpac. Even though it seems HPDs aren't likely to do physical harm, they are expert manipulators -- and spiteful ones can do a lot of damage.

At the least, an HPD can turn a few friends against you. At worst, she could wage a campaign of gossip and lies where she is a victim and you are a perpetrator, and she will play this act in front of police, judges, child protective services, or anyone else in authority who will listen.

I witnessed my ex-female-friend doing this a few times. At the moment, she is getting lots of attention and sympathy by claiming her ex-husband is an abuser. I don't know exactly where things stand now, but I fear he has lost (or is about to lose) partial custody of the children, and I know she is poisoning their minds against him.

If you don't have any financial or family ties to this woman, I suggest you stay far, far away.

I know HPD's come in many different flavors but the above behavior is more consistent with BPD's IMO.