Question...........

And there is a huge difference between not believing in monogamy and having open relationships where all parties are clear about what is going on and cheating. Cheating is deceiving people.

HPD is all about deceiving people - so of course you're a CHEAT. Maybe not exactly in the context you were meaning but life has rules that normal people generally follow, that's what creates 'order'. HPD's don't follow these rules and hence are 'disordered', you are cheating the system, and that's what gets so many normal peoples backs up, nobody likes a cheat! Especially when you can't see it, think it's completely normal, and everyone else is a mug for not seeing it your way.

sofrance1 wrote:Why would you cheat?

As I said it isn't what nature intended as I still have the urge to fvck other women regardless of whether society has labeled me and some other girl as a 'couple'. A marriage contract does not repress sexual urges either.

I'll probably never have a serious monogamous relationship in my life. It just doesn't make sense.

sofrance1 wrote:And there is a huge difference between not believing in monogamy and having open relationships where all parties are clear about what is going on and cheating. Cheating is deceiving people.

Yeah as we all know HPDs aren't deceiving at all... LOL

You didn't reply to my question so I am going to assume you do have one night stands (albeit short ones) to prove your worth and then the guy assumes you are interested and pursues you so it suddenly makes you get turned off by him and you make up reasons to never see him again. That is still considered cheating, sweetie.

Personally sofrance....I feel that a hpd will cheat because her/his goal is to make that person theres....they go out with you however they find the fantasy of what others have to offer so inviting that sex is there only power. My girl alway, always said why can't guys see me as intellectul when all she portrayed was sex. When I questioned her on that she said I was being stupid and jealous. Yes she got there number and yes they were a great friend and Ishould get to know them. She just met them. We were to go away for a long week one time, a day before we left she said she wanted to stay home and get "things done" I could not understand and said that she was being stupid and it was a vacation we had planned. During that week sheleft her journal just laying around and in it she spoke of going away with another guy for a couple days. She said how exciting the thought of it all was and new it was wrong but she could not help herself in wanting to go because of how exciting it would be. He was 30 years older, married and had money. When confronted I was the bad guy for reading her journal and if I was not persistent she would have gone. I asked her for marriage in which she said yes and posted everthing on the web about us.....when we split for obvious reasons she tole me I was an asshole for asking her to marry her and that I was the worst thing that ever happened in her life....yet months after out break up she continued to have sex with me. Tell me what did I do wrong other then not have the strenth to cut it off after the first time she cheated??? She cried every tiime after we had sex saying she had changed and did not want to hurt this new guy only to have sex with me again. She constantly called and belittled me for having other women in her life saying they were not right for me and to speak of all the great times she was having. yet when I had a chance to talk about me she said I was just a male whore using women for my own advantage....that shallow. She didn't pay for a thing with me and just told me months ago....last tiime i talked to her that she could only afford so much in her new relationship and this new guy was just going to have to pay for everything else that was needed. That is when it al kicked in...it wasn't about respect or love but what he had to do to show her he loved her. It was excpected and if he didn't then.....She said one time "?" is so much like you....they trap those that they know they can control....if he is like me he is in for serious headaches.