HPD cure?

by **EMD** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 9:54 pm

Maybe a healthy diet, excercise, positive reinforcement can cure it? What if HPD is caused by something we are unaware of in the body?

EMD - I've read several of your posts and please dont take this the wrong way but I would just like to ask if you have read many of the posts on this forum relating to HPD's? Personally, I found it very helpful and was in fact a silent reader for at least 13 hours straight here before I 'found' my voice - somewhat timid at first and just blown away by the long stint of reading and learning and realisations that the reading produced. I also read through heaps of online text about HPD before I found this forum - but of course I dont believe any of that was anywhere near as helpful and knowledgable as the posts from the beautiful, insightful, understanding, sharing and caring people that offer us all fragments of their lives here. It's self therapy and at the same time so helping and supportive to others. Anyway, I digress (I do that a lot - see? just did it again!) :wink:

by **newtohpd** » Thu Mar 11, 2010 11:37 am

Maybe a healthy diet, excercise, positive reinforcement can cure it?

lol

I am sure most HPDs keep to a healthy diet, exercise and seek and get plenty of positive reinforcement. However, that don't do it for the cure. They do it to appear more attractive, so that they can get more attention.

What applies as a cure to normals, can become an "enabler" for a disordered person.

by **caro81VA** » Thu Mar 11, 2010 7:08 pm

If you were diagnosed with HPD, this would be a better question.

But (unless I have you confused), you're not. You're in a relationship with someone who may have HPD.

So what does it mean to you if there were a cure? What if it were a pill? You can't force her to take it. You can't drag her to the doctor for an appointment. The fact is, it doesn't matter whether HPD is a mental illness, a physical illness, or just a screwed up way of looking at the world. It could be any of those things, and this would still be true: YOU CAN NOT FIX HER - YOU CAN NOT SAVE HER.

Now. Where does that leave you?

caro

by **Bewildered** » Thu Mar 11, 2010 7:24 pm

newtohpd wrote:
Maybe a healthy diet, excercise, positive reinforcement can cure it?

lol

I am sure most HPDs keep to a healthy diet, exercise and seek and get plenty of positive reinforcement. However, that don't do it for the cure. They do it to appear more attractive, so that they can get more attention.

You are spot on. It has less to do with being healthy than it does for reasons of vanity so they can get showered with attention and praise about their physical looks since they are so terribly insecure.

by **TatteredKnight** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 1:59 am

I think Bam put it both sensitively and accurately. I'll be a bit more blunt: Your chances of curing HPD with "healthy diet, exercise, and plenty of positive reinforcement" are about the same as those of curing a broken spine with the same treatment.

The actual cure for HPD would have four steps:
1) Promote enough self-awareness that they recognise that something is wrong and they want to get better.
2) Help them to work through the toxic shame and abandonment trauma underlying their disordered behaviour.
3) Rebuild their foundation of self-esteem so that they can actually accept themselves as worthy and worthwhile people.
4) Train them in emotional literacy and mature, healthy coping mechanisms to replace their maladaptive behaviour.

Note that no-one knows how to do point 1, our current psychotherapy is only just coming to terms with points 2 and 3, and point 4 is trying to lead them through decades of emotional development. At best it would take years even if you could manage points 1 - 3.

by **EMD** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 3:54 am

actors, how do you get any kind of actor, to act in desirable way for a long period of time? Thier publicist! SO people what's the next step?

sorry that was, rude, I was looking for positive feedback. But I really think that HPD has somekind of unseen underlying medical condition or many. My point is, there has got to be a problem, and there has got to be some solution. I dont think a lot of things will work, because thier environment I have learned is always thier stage. But I think there is the possibily somewhere out there for them to be happy, healthy, without the need and desire for drama that is destructive to someone else.

Shouldn't there be..... I will continue to have many questions, as it could mean a better place for people to live, healthy, happy, but healthy.

by **Bam** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:15 am

EMD - I'm starting to question whether you are actually reading people's responses to your qu's at all. I suggest you reread this thread that you initiated and then read it again. Then go read some other threads and read them again. That will answer your current question. Rest assured that we here KNOW that they are actors, we really do.

by **EMD** » Fri Mar 12, 2010 4:38 am

The real problem is rejection, they don't want to be rejected so the react shallowly and quickly, maybe a nerve problem, which could indicate the head problem!

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