What's a relationship between two HPDs like?

Chucky wrote:Is this for a sirvey or something, asphyx?

Chucky wrote:I don't think that any answer to your question should be taken as the standard answer. Any two people - irrespective of their disorders - have come from different backgrounds and it's impossible to know how a relationship would turn out. In any relationship, you shouldn't condsider mental issues at the outset, because a relationships either work or fail. If they work, then great; if not, then move on.

flawless_victory wrote:Bollas actually mentions such an example in Hysteria where both married partners are HPD. I really should reread the thing, but IIRC, Bollas had one scenario where an HPD couple would act out in front of their kids at the dinner table, having a huge dramatic argument where it evolved to chasing each other around the dinner table, wrestling each other, throwing food, etc. and ended with them both on the floor laughing and the "argument" was over. All this in front of the kids, who played the role of audience, I suppose.

asphyx wrote:I disagree, I think personality disordered people have very similar relationships because they are locked in a sense, into their own behaviours. Would you ever hear of an AsPD or NPD being controlled by a HPD? Nope, it always turns out that the HPD becomes a slave pretty much to the AsPD or NPD because of their specific behaviours.

Of course you can't tell what every relationship would be exactly like but you can have a pretty good idea as to how it will pan out.

Chucky wrote:No, I never hear of that happening. Why? - because people don't normally consider what their respective mental health state is before they start seeing each other. I based my first reply to you on the assumption that it is impossible to predict how any two people will 'join' in a relationship sense - and I believe that my answer is 100% accurate (accurate in the sense that one can never know/predict).

You're basing your answer on little evidence, because there's no way you could have asked every couple out there thrir mental states and how they are getting on with each other.

Chucky wrote:That's what I had been saying all along - i.e. that you cannot know which two will become attracted to each other in the first place. However, I extended this to say that there's also no possible way you can know how the two will actually fair in the relationship itself.