How soon do they start

I went with a person who was histrionic once before. I recently went out with someone who dumped over nothing at all, was unreasonable and it was all my fault and now won't have anything to do with me. It was only a couple of weeks. I was the greatest guy and in 5 minutes I was the worst. Sure felt familiar, that just lost a family memeber feeling. How quickly does one with this disorder start pulling this?

Well, the situation that you've described is a good example of how a person who has HPD behaves. I don't think that they truly know what they want overall in their lives and, therefore, they 'drift' from wanting/needing one thing to another. Once they feel that they don't need something, they can freely cut it out of their lives.

I think it would be best for you to just move on from this situation but carry with you the experience gained from it, okay? you'll be fine.

Kevin

HPD or not that is the best thing to do. After the first one I am pretty familair with the MO. Did not see any signs other than this, I knew her for two weeks> However she has moved from city to city somewhat. It is acutally quite funny, one mnute on the couch she is happy to be with me, I mention an innocent eamil I got from someone and I am dirt. HPD don't know but gotta move on with a smile. I learnt self esteem is important to move on and I have that now!

Ah yeh... ...I remember my time with an ex who had HPD. She was hot and cold al of the time. One minute she could be snuggling up against me and the next she'd be shouting at me over something unimportant. I guess it just means that we can now recognise these people in the future before we let them into our lives.

It's after 1AM here where I am from.

Night.
Kevin

Hi,

It sure looks a lot like BPD "Splitting" too.

Check this link out Roy. It will interest you.

http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a101.htm

My ex was BPD/HPD...

Stay cool.

Lones

Thanks Lones,
I try not to relate peoples actions to a disorder without more background. Having gone out with an HPD I tend to have my guard up somewhat. The BPD has some merit perhaps but will people go through the cycle so quickly? It had only been about 2 to 3 weeks. Maybe I had found a great person who had been hurt before and this was their reaction. It was too short to tell about any other symptoms.
She thought I was checking email on a dating website looking for other women, which I wasn’t. However I was now like every other guy in the world. No amount of reasoning would convince her and any previous positive actions and thoughts towards her no longer counted.

There were some interesting things that perhaps made me think about a disorder. First was the flip from being into me very strongly and then dumping me. Secondly she would not return my calls and her email responses were very cold, abrupt and final. Third she was back on the dating website the next day. Which can be a normal reaction perhaps wanting to get over it. But it was funny because the interests she posted were things that we had talked about doing and had done. Things she never had on her profile before. She has alos moved around alot living in different cities which goes to the restlessness. Any way I gotta move on.

Roy wrote:The BPD has some merit perhaps but will people go through the cycle so quickly? It had only been about 2 to 3 weeks. Maybe I had found a great person who had been hurt before and this was their reaction. It was too short to tell about any other symptoms.

I think BPD or not, her actitude is not a healthy one. You were lucky to get out of it so soon. Imagine if she was that way on what should be the "honeymoon fase", how would she behave after that! Yaiks!!!

You are right. Forget about it. As I say, you were lucky she reveiled herself so soon...

Stay cool.

Lones