Idealized Relationships

Do not be sorry...

I'm glad you wrote this too...

One of the worst flirts me ex had, while we were together, started at a Corporate dinner.

She was complaing about her knife and my coleague, which usually likes to make fun of everyting (I think that maybe he is a little bit narcisistic) offered imself to cut her stake, saying, "let me cut it for you my love". He was laughing. Everybody on the table got the notion he was being sarcastic!...

...Well, I later got to know that she took that as an open flirt to her, and she started to fantasise about him since that moment. She even got jealous of a girl with whom he really flirted that same night!

I fond almost one mont later that she started to change "Love" emails with this guy, until the moment that even he got scared about her and resend me one of those mails. She already had told this "dilema" of hers to all our comon girlfriends. She was plannig to leave me so that they could live happily ever after. It was "her destiny calling" and "she knew that". This thing almost cost the job to the three of us...

Curious thing is that this guy told me some weeks ago, when he was informed that our relationship had ended, that he felt she was like a black hole that would absorb anything that I would give to her, without never stop asking for more, but also without giving nothing in return.

"Lones...just forguet about her...she has no cure...her's is a defective hardware problem, it is not solved by just changing the software CD. You can't turn a cat into a dog", he told me!!!

Without knowing about HPD or BDP, he described his idea of her as being a "completely comon" person who somehow felt she was "special" and that she deserved unjustified "special treatment". I think I saw that on the HPDs checklist, didn't I?



ps:

Tanquery wrote:Yes,
She acts as though she HATES her husband,

It is curious that you say that, because that was one of the things that bothered me most, when she putted herself on those "films". Particularly the last "film" she made (which eventually cost the end of our relationship). She exhibited such HATE into me that before I knew about BDP/HPD I never really come to cope with that. How in the would was that possible? She displayed so much hate for me, that it seemed as if I was the one who was leaving her for another woman!?