I got the Answer !!!!

I deleted my original post of Why? Why? Why?.......because I went back over all the evidence and I found the answer!. I've spent 3 years on that one big question, and I've asked it here many times over the 1 year that I've known about HPD, and now I have the answer finally.



I know why she did it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


It was envy.......simple envy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


She wanted THE "HOT GUY" that her friend was working on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Because the grass looked greener!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And she wanted to prove she was the hottest!!!!!!!!!


That's all it was.............pride and envy........

Simple stupid envy............greener grass!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How childish and stupid................

I'm sorry It annoyed some of you that I kept posting essentially the same questions but ever since she came back into my world 3 years ago I've been determined to figure out WHY she dumped me on the honeymoon for Mr. wonderful. I couldn't remember and it was beginning to drive me nuts..........

Her childhood friend/mentor poisened her mind with doubt etc each day of the last week before our wedding. During the entire "honeymoon" she was silent and MISERABLE. Then when we got back to our place she immediately began to pursue her friends new random "Hot-guy" of the month. She seduced him within a few days. she was probably not sure if she wanted to replace me completely, but she knew she wanted Mr. Wonderful to be her new love-guy. (I could stay perhaps if I was OK just being the support flunky). NO THANKS

I was hoping someone here could tell me some possible WHY's....And people have helped a lot..and now finally I have it...She was simply envious.......she wanted the best guy ......she couldn't settle for me.....and being a PD of the utmost highest order it didn't bother her at all to dump me on the friggin honeymoon.....when she was the sorry son of a bitch that wanted to get married!.....but that's OK. I just wanted to know why. She fell for Mr. Slick, and that's OK. She can have any guy she wants.except me................

It is a free country.............


Thank you and goodnight.......

Forget her. Shes scum, not worth your time.

Hey Souther,

You are right.............

It's just become a hobby unraveling the craziness
of our relationship......and her ways.........

Dude!

When are you gonna get a grip?

Here comes the flame but it's outta love. It really is... WAKE UP!

How many posts, how many months, how many threads are you gonna start, how many times are you gonna type this same sh!t? I mean you can just cut & paste so many of your posts!

I've read your stuff, man. This woman was years ago. You've been married again since...

Build a f@#kin' bridge and start getting over it!

Nobody understands where you're coming from better than I. I can say that without any fear of contradiction or retribution.

By way of comparison you got off easy. Or maybe not, you seem to be scarred for life. You were married to that c&*t for a few weeks... I was married to that sh!t for 25 years! She drew your BLOOD! I can relate to that!

Mine tried to ruin my life, and still continues to try to this day, and I won't let her!

Find a way to put the baggage down! It's/she's killing you still from the inside out! You gotta break free or at least loose...

What's it gonna take? What do you need? What is the answer to the question that will put your mind at ease? What tool do you need to excise her from your life TODAY? Yesterday is gone, you can't get it back! Today is all you've got and you're letting her rule it! STOP!

STOP!

Man, I know you can do it if you want to but I have to ask... why don't you want to put her behind you? Why do you cling to this albatross around your neck?

Look to your future! She's not in it! Carrying her memory with you won't put her in your life again.

Geez, man, I'm at a loss. I feel your pain. I do, and it breaks my heart. I wish I could make yours go away. I'd do it.

I thank God I was able to do it for myself!

Hang in there, but change your name... you're not wiser now, you're "stilltroubled".

CCum,

Some of your comments are accurate, .............

And you'll be glad to know that I'm close to giving up and
dropping the whole "inquest".



I actually forgot she ever existed for 20 wonderful years. that was nice.........!!!



Kind of like sometimes I'll go for years without thinking about Vietnam, or this other really sweet girl who was killed by a drunk driver in '73.........These things don't bother me too bad because I understand them.





Then in 2005 she came back..........into my world.........and I didn'tsleep for 3 or 4 months..........oh God..........every night I was
seeing our time together like a movie.........a nightmare.........then I got on the internet and found some........some knowledge........


"Wisernow" is what I'm working towards............and I have learned and grown a little bit in these 3 years......



And ...drum roll please......... I am almost done with this re-hashing , and re-examining...........


Then I'll purge her memory...or put her in the lock-box with other horrible memories..........

And then maybe I'll have another wonderful 20 years without her.............


And now off to my "happy place"...........

My Pontiac Solstice..........My wonderful wife...........the beautiful weather.........Sunday Morning................

Maybe a ride to the beach............


HAPPY TIME !!!................

Ccumm, stop the attention grabbing large letters. Stop projecting on Wisernow, you need not drop the fact you got suckered for 25 years. He has less time in and your not over yours yet.

My true friends never belittle me. Even the few I have had on this forum. Wisernow, I have suffered the same pain you have but will never vomit / project my own weakness on you. Many are feeling everything you are but chose to help with kindness and not drive a stake into your heart. This is not tough love by Ccumm..... This is Supply at it's best. Making someone feel dumb is never a good thing. You are hurting, I am hurting and would never project my pain on yourself.

You are not weak but strong for posting from your heart on this forum.

We are hear to listen and help you with a soft landing. I will tell you the pain sneeks up now and then on myself. But things will get better with time. It has with me and will with yourself.

Just like my pastor says, "Satan's gone but he's left his bags behind." Get rid of those bags!

Thanks Dan........

Actually I thought Ccum was being pretty civil.

I only have one question left.

I feel no pain. Just confusion.

I have a good life.

I'm just very curious.

I will get the answer, and closure, someday.

OK folks, my last question.......... the sex question was mostly just sarcasm, actually I wouldn't care if she had sex with a farm animal.

The last question from my nightmare..........

Drum roll please..............


Did she marry me A. planning (or expecting) to cheat on me, and I was just going to be rent-boy, Or was she B. disgusted with me and was trying to replace me?


So there you are folks..........my last question.


I'm actually glad yes GLAD she treated me so bad..........because that's what it took for me to wake up and see the real her.

To see that I deserved better................

Then it took 10 years of very intense alchohol therapy to get better! Ha Ha



My Last question...............



WN

Wisernow,

I am glad you have a good life, as do I. I come back to this Forum for a refresher and hope others get the benefit we have enjoyed.

Can you Imagine a Crises Line ever telling a rape / emotionally raped person to.


Ccumm wrote:

"Build a f@#kin' bridge and start getting over it"