hpd stalkers

my uhpd exgirlfriend used to follow me to work and go thru my personal stuff, go thru my cell phone, search the parking lots for my car, stole my email password and read, transfer, and delete my emails, put spyware on my computer, and put a spy program on my cell phone so she could read my text messages and see who I was calling. I am going to try and have the states attorney charge her with stalking. My question, is stalking a typical behavior for hpd's? Thanks.

It sounds like too much work for a HPD - they are more into the drama of things like... 'let me push you away and now let me see if I have the power to pull you back in... Oh, I can't pull you back in. Well, I'll see if that guy at work will be interested in me now'.

Have you looked at Narcissism? They are way more apt to stalk and go through the trouble of spyware etc. Too, N's are in the mind set to control you, to top you, to punish you... 'You are nothing to me... I didn't do anything to deserve you leaving me... I am perfect... I will show you just how much of a b*t*h I can be... you will regret you ever lived'.

I agree. Stalkers don't give up even when they're not getting anything from the other person. I can't see an HPD doing that for very long. Remember - most don't even wait until the relationship is over before looking elsewhere for NS.

In my experience, the HPD doesn't stalk. They write people off with the snap of their fingers and move onto their next source of supply. This goes for friends, lovers, family members and anyone that's part of their life.

While they may try to contact you later on down the line (when their current supplies are running low), it's usually short lived if they're getting nothing out of you in return.

What you're describing has way too much to do with you and way too little to do with them. These are definitely not characteristics of someone with HPD. I'd start looking elsewhere.

not a home wrote:In my experience, the HPD doesn't stalk. They write people off with the snap of their fingers and move onto their next source of supply. This goes for friends, lovers, family members and anyone that's part of their life.
While they may try to contact you later on down the line (when their current supplies are running low), it's usually short lived if they're getting nothing out of you in return.
What you're describing has way too much to do with you and way too little to do with them. These are definitely not characteristics of someone with HPD. I'd start looking elsewhere.

Perfectly said.

She started the stalking when I started going out with someone else. Now she just harasses the hell out of me with spyware, spamware, false abuse complaints to the police and colleagues. I think the stalking when I was going out with someone else was a form of control maybe or way to best manipulate me from leaving. Once she installed spyware on my computer and saw that I had sent mail to the other woman telling her that relationship was over, the hpd realized I was committed to her and she immediately latched onto to someone else. It was all a game to her. She won.

I wish I had searched her computer to find out if she really is rockergirl or not. I asked her if she was, but would she admit to it? It really is a ###$ when I start thinking I actually KNOW people on this forum. And rockergirl-
I really let you ###$ me.

Pygmalion Papillion wrote:I wish I had searched her computer to find out if she really is rockergirl or not. I asked her if she was, but would she admit to it? It really is a ###$ when I start thinking I actually KNOW people on this forum. And rockergirl-
I really let you ###$ me.

Sweetie - I can assure you that I am not your ex - and had no intentions of mindf****ng you
I live by the Pacific Ocean and have the impression that you live nearer to the Atlantic Ocean - so search me if you have to - do you want a photo???

- do you want a photo???

Oooooooooh! I din't know that this was that kind of site!!





But going back to stalking .....

In my experience, the HPD doesn't stalk. They write people off with the snap of their fingers and move onto their next source of supply.

A lot of what they have read in references and heard on this site is that an HPD will jealously guard former sources of supply even though they are not longer interested in them as sources of supply.

"How to get them to leave you alone", and "Do they come back?" have been topics for previous discusion. There also seems to be a contol freak aspect to their behavior. They want still affect the behavior of their ex-source.

So, I think that HPD behavior is situation and individual specific. I'm hoping that my ex finds another target, so I can be left alone.

I think that HPD behavior is situation and individual specific. I'm hoping that my ex finds another target, so I can be left alone.

It has been two and a half months since my initial post in this thread, but I'm going to have to go against my original words and agree with you on this one.


It's now obvious to me that this "stalking" type of behavior is closely related to the current supply they are receiving. These days, when things aren't going so well in my HPD ex's life, I get contacted. Sometimes it might only be once a week, but other times it can be multiple times per day over a number of days. I'm assuming the longer you were with the HPD, the more they will want you as a "safety net" of sorts when the new supply starts running dry, if only for the comfort aspect of knowing you so well for so long (a true HPD doesn't have long-term friends to fall back on).

Ignoring it only seems to work to an extent. I tried this over the course of about a month and was still getting texts, emails and calls at an increased rate until I finally gave in (I was at work and received no less than 10 texts and 3 calls in a matter of hours).

We met up a couple times and realizing I had made a huge mistake I told her that I didn't want any contact with her anymore. I wasn't nice about it either.

The silence lasted only a week or two and now the longing texts have started up again. She even randomly showed up at my work one night with her friends. I'm still not responding and crossing my fingers that she will just go away this time without me having to intervene again. It's now gone from heartbreak to headache...