Rejection behavior

Recently i posted "No Contact" this post is conclusive to it.

As mentioned i've not responded to her contacts for sometime now all the sudden she wants to visit my place & see the progress I've made on my house + see my cat who she claims to miss so much.
This is hogwash! & we know it.

Well, i don't want her at my house so i responded by saying i would take some picutres of my place & the cat for her. She is not taking it well. wants to know why i don't want her at my place etc.... i guess this is my control & i feel i have the right to deny her a visit, especially after 4 months. come on!
I have simply said there is no reason for her to come out when she is seeing someone else. Keep in mind we work in the same building & she is now seeing someone within the company. todays correspondance has been done via company email.

These folks do not like hearing the "TRUTH" i believe it really hurts them!

One day, if her new guy friend calls me with questions i may have to point him to this website as well as share some of her "want to cheat emails"

I personally believe she is either not deriving the full supply from her new guy so she is attempting to backtrack with me. Or she is creating more drama so she can feel balanced within, i don't know!
I refuse to support her behavior just due to my morals & respect for the new guy who i only know by sight.

I believe being rejected has aggitated her knowing my supply chain is dry. i am about to block her messages &
revert back to the no contact mode i was once in & should have stayed in.

I feel she will eventually project her unhappines with me to her new guy friend, i'm just glad I'm not him.

I have learned more about this person in the last 4 months than i did the 12 months we were seeing each other. Also this forum has helped tremendously with insight to PD's

Sincerely Unsc8thd,

Does your ex know that you recognise her as HPD ? If HPDs can`t take criticism or rejection and fear people seeing through their pleasant exterior, why do they try to stay in people`s lives after they`ve been exposed?

My HPD has an amazing ability to forget anything negative about himself that anyone tells him.

Like Bernstein said, HPDs, in their minds, divide themselves into the parts people like, and the parts that aren't there.

I remember that for quite a while after I met my HPD, I believed him when he said that he didn't know why his ex-wife left him. Later, when he told me that they had gone to couples counseling, I knew that that couldn't be true. I'm sure she probably told him till she was blue in the face! (I can relate.) But it seems that he truly can't remember!

Last year, I broke up with him for a week over the same issues that have resurfaced recently. When the issues resurfaced, and I made a comment about our break-up last year, he, apparently with sincerity, said he didn't remember that we ever broke up! (It was the only time we've been broken up in a year and a half.)

We can have a huge fight, where something has been discussed for hours, and several emails have been exchanged, etc., and 5 minutes later he acts as if he has no idea what I'm talking about.

Even though some of this cluelessness might be faking because he doesn't want to discuss problems, much of it seems real. I think his powers of repression, denial, and projection are really that good.

And, unsc8thd, I definitely wouldn't let your girl back into your house or your life! You've done a great job getting free of her (I admire you), and you don't want to step in that pile twice.

I bet she would leave you alone if you threatened to forward that email to her new guy.

thanks roni & roohead I appreciate your comments.

roohead, i have not addressed her with her being an HPD. I'm saving that for later. i am spiritually stong, i have committed my life to JC years before meeting this person that why i feel unscathed by this person. sometimes they are the devil in disguise. i don't care what any one says. i will address her when the time is right. she still loves me & has told me so even as far as telling her new source of supply, so she says anyway. i will let her know once she ruins this new source who works for our company. i feel she will contact me again then & this is when i will blow her socks off letting her know many of us are on to her game & she needs professional help.

roni, thanks for the compliment! i can appreciate it but then again my faith has prevailed in this situation. i will let her new supply know more about her once he becomes burn out/old supply & decides to contact me. you & i know that time will come. i feel he will contact me just because he knows that she still loves me & she has screwed up their relationship. when he does i will point him to this website & let him gain the insight we've all learned in a post like manner. i don't think it is right of me to blow their new romance so early, time will tell the story & i have the rest of my life to watch this thing develop into the chaos is deemed to be.

i will keep you posted as the days, weeks & months pass, i kind of wish i had the remote control the adam sandler had in the movie click.. you may think i may be twisted myself but knowing how dysfunctional our world has become its no suprise that people are the way the are today. guard your heart & mind at all times!

honestly, i am excited for the days, weeks & months to come!

JC is the answer to all of our problems.. trust & obey & you'll get your way!

Roni, i read the book emotional vampires as well as the sociopath next door. two great books that really open some insight.

also... in regards to forgetfullness. this person remembers nothing they do in the wrong or how they treat others wrongfully. it's simply amazing & equally disgusting & sad.

i'm sooooo glad i have the ability to see things thru others perspectives.. got empathy? i do... ;--)

It's interesting how many people here have mentioned talking with their HPD's ex's.

Quite some time back in my relationship, I told my bf that I might like to talk with his ex-wife. I have NEVER felt the need to do anything like that before in my life!

Looking back, I guess I was looking for some kind of explanation and validation. I didn't end up contacting her, but eventually realized the HPD thing and found more info and this site.

Now, I sometimes think about contacting her in case it would be helpful for her. I have no idea whether she has any understanding of his disorder. Maybe her relationship with him still haunts her. But, I'm afraid it would be intrusive to her if I contacted her out of the blue. Maybe she is past it all; I hope so, for her sake.

I'd love to talk to my HPD's ex. In fact, I understand she's out of his life (again) now, and I'm wondering if I could anonymously point him toward the disorder, because I can't imagine that he understands just what's going on with her. Plus, of course, I'd love to know what comes out of her mouth regarding the numerous relationships that ended which left her running back to him for her supply.

Part of me would like to talk to my HPDs husband, whilst part of me thinks that it`s not my problem . I`m really not sure what goes on in his head. When she first started acting out, I felt sympathy for him and was concerned about him getting hurt. that was until he tried doing her dirty work for her and resorted to lies, manipulation, threats and demands himself to cover up for her. I don`t know if he recognises she has a problem but considers it personal and keeps it to himself ( if so does he know it`s HPD), or if he`s in denial and does`nt want to confront the fact she has a problem or he is truly oblivious of the fact. I`m sure if he read this forum a light bulb would go off above his head.