Bitter/Angry Nons

by **Luxie** » Fri Jan 29, 2016 9:44 pm

Lots of anecdotal evidence being trotted out to paint all/most HPDs with the same negative brush. "They all cheat!".

We are not your ex, bro. Some of you might need to move on and stop rehashing the same stories about your ex's behaviour (that had nothing to do with you and everything to do with the trauma that produced the HPD pathology).

Hey Luxie,

About a year ago we started moving the NON threads over to the Significant Others, Family & Friends forum. There are many old threads that still exist, and maybe you saw those, or saw some threads that started here, and were linked to SOF&F, but hopefully newer threads here are mostly about HPD and support for those with HPD.

That written it still happens that NONs join in here and are triggered. You are right that taking things out on people who haven't actually harmed us is pointless.

by **sunrises** » Thu Feb 11, 2016 1:57 pm

A well-educated non will grasp of the severity and implications of past trauma for the HPD. A well-educated HPD will grasp the severity and implications of the hurt they inflicted on the non. "I never meant to hurt you" is more often a copout than not for someone who hasn't had to suffer like the HPD has had to. In the HPD's case, it is an accurate reflection of their moral self-understanding.

by **hamrosso** » Sun Mar 06, 2016 3:45 am

sunrises wrote:A well-educated non will grasp of the severity and implications of past trauma for the HPD. A well-educated HPD will grasp the severity and implications of the hurt they inflicted on the non. "I never meant to hurt you" is more often a copout than not for someone who hasn't had to suffer like the HPD has had to. In the HPD's case, it is an accurate reflection of their moral self-understanding.

Whatever, they are just [***mod edit***] to me. And revenge is sweet no matter what people tell you, I made one of them cry so bad that she wanted to commit suicide cause I hooked up with someone way more attractive than her right after i dumped her. I publicly shamed her to her fan clubs and white knights. The "friends" she still has are not her real friends, by the things they do behind her back. But she doesn't even know that

. She started it, she wanted to play so I will show her for the rest of my life who's the better player. Remember, revenge is justified if the person deserved it. Few tips for you nons. No contact is already a good revenge, especially if you dumped her. Then date someone more attractive than her, cause they are shallow people, all their sense of worth is on looks. Never hate your enemies, it affects your judgement. And. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Wait, plan and no emotions should be involved. Be creative people and ruthless. When done correctly, there will be no repercussions and oh so so sweet.

by **xdude** » Sun Mar 06, 2016 12:13 pm

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by **mostlyghostly** » Sun Mar 06, 2016 4:26 pm

Well I imagine that often times they are not Nons in the sense of being non-dysfunctional, even if they don't have HPD in particular.

I mean for a mentally healthy, functional person, if someone is demanding too much attention and energy, the mentally healthy person simply says, "Enough of this," and stops engaging.

But people with PDs often attract and enmesh with each other. Anyone who stays in a LTR relationship with a PD person, very likely has a PD, themselves.

I mean in my own case, I stayed in a relationship for 3 years with a guy who met the criteria for AsPD, so it would be pretty ridiculous for me to believe that I had no dysfunctions of my own, and that I wasn't dancing right along in my own ways. I mean I stayed for 3 entire years.

But not everyone is going to see that right away, and in some cases may never see it. But you can see it, if you choose to do so.

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