Mostly about sex. Go figure.

1. Some are faithful...most of are not. Depends entirely on the individual. Lots of HPD's will act extremely sexual to admirers but become enraged if the admirer actually makes a move on them. Most of them cheat, I my opinion. I always have cheated.

2. You still have to have the father-figure, which is the S.O. You must keep your stability with one man in order to continue meaningless affairs...without a stable partner, the meaningless affairs would be painful and depressing.

3. FREAK OUT! We hate, hate, hate been ignored. Any response is better than no response. She will keep trying and trying but will give up if you make NO CONTACT at all for a LONG period of time. But be prepared for pleas, begging, gifts, flowers, confessions, unexpected visits etc before she gives up.

4. She will be floored and terribly angry. To just negate her without explanation would be maddening to her. If you want to upset her, just send an email saying "Im done".

5. I have yet to have "meaningful" sex. I cannot seem to connect intimacy with sexuality. They are two needs filled generally by different people. Most of the time I would rather sex anyone than my partner who loves me. And I dont even like sex. It disgusts me most of the time. I WANT it to be meaningful with my man, but I usually have to fantasize about some meaningless sex affair in order to orgasm. They are usually very good and exciting in bed in the BEGINNING. But after awhile, they will avoid sex with you like its the plague. I dont know if this can ever change if they do not get help. The vulnerability of being intimate and sexual with one person simultaneously is too overwhelming and threatening to our fragile sense security and it triggers huge fears of loss and abandonment.

6. Not really. But sometimes. I do. After orgasms, usually with my man. Its like I know that I just got someone off that really LOVES me and i know how ###$ up I really am. It is SAD and it does make us cry. Sex is powerful to us, although we use it like its a job.

7. It is not that great. Most of the time it is extremely anxiety producing and depressing. It is lonely and empty. It is only fun at times, but the rest of the time, I am sitting here like...." this is pathetic and I will never have the opportunity to love and be loved like 'normal' people".

- And yes, run. It will probably never change, at least not for years. If you are willing to put up with affairs, then hang in there...but if not, then get out now. There are healthy women with histrionic traits that are exciting enough without the baggage and emotional destruction of a true HPD.

Mylife answered very well so I will answer this since it stood out to me the most...

"7) And finally, a question about you, me, us and what's left of polite society: Do any of you ever think that the HPDs have it right? That life is to be lived with crazed exuberance and reckless love? And that if the rest of us were like them and didn't have jealous expectations, possessiveness or demands for fidelity, we'd all be a lot better off?"

This is purely the realm of personal opinion.

So I'll say...

No.

A life without loyalty and looking out for one another, a life geared only towards gratification of the self is not one I personally would be fulfilled with.

I can name one great benefit of my bad HPD experience and that is I now care far more about others and how I treat them than I ever did before.

Going the next step from your question would basically be to become a bhuddist lol.

Also you are mistaken if you think HPD's have no jealous expectations or possessiveness.

If you even hint about finding another girl attractive while with an HPD you can expect to be treated with a silent jealous rage by your HPD for a few minutes but of course this will also turn your HPD on and make her think she is close to losing you. Then she will turn on the HPD charm and sex appeal for you to bring you back to her side so she thinks. She thinks wrong because you always were on her side and just making an offhand comment as normal guys often do but she being an HPD thinks its a serious attack on her appeal to you as a woman and will fight to keep your love.

Oh and the possessiveness comes in when you win the HPD game.

A person that does that becomes even moreso the HPD's obsession and is responsible for taking care of the HPD's every need.

She'll cling to you basically and may use subtle anger or bad moods to lure you away from doing activities with your friends that you normally enjoyed to instead tend to her.

"1 -- long, very nice, sweet, kind, "love you but this won't work for us, but let's be friends!" type of thing.

2 -- long, angry, "I can't believe you did A and B and C, etc."

3 -- sad and longing "I miss you so much, it's just breaking my heart to have to say this ...""

No, no and no to these three.

These will only give her the HPD validation that she craves.

She will feel she has gotten to you and not be impacted negatively at all over this.

She will absorb your attention feel good about it and move on.

"4 -- short and to the point: "it's been fun, but it's over. let's not bother with an autopsy, ok?"

Correct answer #4.

Making an HPD think that they were no big deal to you is the best thing you can do.

Yep, KX is right. Just end it coldly and bluntly...no explanation and no feelings...just says it over. see ya. You will really mess her up with that...BUT then you have to be DONE 100%. Take no calls, emails, texts, etc....be done.

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Good for you! And yes, we HPD's love XANAX too! Actually I have extreme EXTREME extreme fear of vomiting - called, emetophobia....had it all my life! It is horrible, and I have only recently "come out of the closet" about this fear due to the shame because I know it is irrational....tonight I think I might have ate some bad food!!!

Luckily, I have somthing a little stronger than Xanax, I have Compazine....NOW...i am NOT NOT NOT a pill popper - only take when absolutely necessary....in fact, this med I got when I was pregnant for morning sickness and that was FIVE YEARS AGO!!! But I still have three pills left

This Compazine KNOCKS YOU OUT!!! So....to all my friends and "fans" (hehe) here - GOOD NIGHT!

Thought this string was worth looking at again.