Hi everyone!
I was married to an HPD for awhile, who cheated, lied, played mental games and then one day she up and left with another man. When we dated, everything was great! Then the cheating began and she had to admit it to me when she got caught. Like an idiot, I begged her back, she convinced me it was my fault. So we got married. During the marriage she had many affairs. She would say she was taking a friend to a city for a wedding party, only for it to be meeting with a guy. She would get cocky and gloat, but then start crying and say "why do I always let other men come between us".
One night she was telling me how much she loved me as she laid in bed. I went in the kitchen and found a strange phone. It was given to her by another man and was all sexts between them. I took it in to her and she got a serious look and said she thinks she's in love with him. My brother, who was suicidal at the time, wanted me to visit him the next day. So I'm driving there worried he has done something and she's going on about how she's meant to be with this other man the whole time.
So, one day she up and leaves and moves in with this guy, but tries to convince me she's living with another woman, but I knew better. She called me to let me know that she was alright, because she said she knew I worried about her ( is she insane?) and to ask me how weird it was that this new guy doesn't like an actor that me and her likes. She starts bragging that she is going to have to sue me for divorce because I'm so crazy about her that I won't sign anything. Her new guy tells her he won't stay with her unless she divorces me so she goes and gets paperwork drew up but gives them all the wrong information so I won't receive it.
I finally go and file for divorce but she doesn't know it at this point in the story. I meet her at a restaurant and she hands me papers. I sign them and she says she's not turning them in right away because it's a big decision. So we talk during the week and then at the end of the week when she receives my papers, she goes no contact for a long, long time.
She called one night and said she had been drugged and date raped. She talked on this for 2 hours. I heard from her again a month later and she swore that hadn't happened and that she had not contacted me.
So now, she's married to this guy a LOT younger than her and has kids, which was something we always talked about doing. She is obsessed with kids and always wanted them. I decided to break the no contact last month after years of no talking and speak to her online. She answered immediately. Any time I talk to her online she engages fast and she tries to compete with everything I say.
I'm still heart broken over the whole ordeal. Is she engaging so fast because it's new attention?