Can't perform for just 1 specific person

Has anyone heard of ED tied to just one person? I have no problem getting hard for any other women, except, ironically, for the one that I desire the most. I'll call her L.

I met L. this summer and fell deeply in love. I'd never met a woman so sexy, bold, adverntuous, fearless, intelligent and wise. She's truly a restless spirit. Very spontaneous and wild. It's what attracts me to her, but I think part of me also finds it intimidating. She's 10 years younger than I, but she's more educated and also more experienced in the world. I've led a pretty boring life by comparison.

The first time we made love we were camping and had the hottest sex--9 times in 2 days. She told me I'm the only man that could make her squirt. It was the most amazing weekend of my life and I had no trouble staying hard for her.

Now that we're back in the city I have not been able to get it up for her. She's been very sweet and understanding with me about it--god bless her--but I know she's getting frustrated and I honestly can't blame her if she needs to get cock from someone else.

I think I already understand that my "putting her on a pedestal" is getting in the way of my ability to perform.

My question is: how do I take her down from that pedestal in my mind?

This is so frustrating for me. I even tried erection pills and they didn't help with her. But when I'm with any other woman, all it takes is a hug and I'm rock hard. What's the deal? I'm almost ready to see a hypnotist about this.

Hi, H.C. Sunshine! Maybe it'd help to figure out why you put her on that pedestal in the first place.
Do you think that maybe you fear disappointing her and losing her so part of you would rather not have sex with her at all if that might be the cost?

You sound a bit like the man I"m deeply in love with, except I'm on the recieving end of this. I can tell you that the amazing woman you're talking about is just a human being, with her own insecurities and flaws who probably just wants you to be yourself and confident, and love her up.
I wonder if there is any weight to the whole 'power' element of what sex can be?, if that makes any sense. Do you not want to 'hurt' her physically, and with these other women its easier to detach from them emotionally and so you can objectify them more? I say this without any judgement, truly. I just want to understand myself why the best man who's ever come into my life can't get truly hard for me, or loses his erection. He also likes to be in charge, and I wonder if he fears losing himself to me; losing control.
He seems like he's over the past two relationships which left him feeling rather abandoned, I believe, and perhaps not worthy. Perhaps he's really not over the fear of that happening again and carries some baggage? Is that relevant to you at all? Just some things to mull over.
I've just posted something else which should come out shortly, once approved. I'm new to this site.

Trying out a hypnotist just for the sake of it is never wrong.

Maybe it happens only when you're at ease with someone? When things are exciting and new you have difficulty "getting it up"?

you are overpowered by her strong personality. Unconsciously, you are intimated and anxious to perform well in your relationship specially in bed. Maybe you need to know your post in her life and make it more intimate than doing it for a sexual performance only.

-- Tue Jan 24, 2012 8:04 am --

you are overpowered by her strong personality. Unconsciously, you are intimated and anxious to perform well in your relationship specially in bed. Maybe you need to know your post in her life and make it more intimate than doing it for a sexual performance only.