Performance Anxiety caused by my wife

I love sex a whole lot but my performance anxiety is killing me. I been with my wife for 20 rough years. I have Generalized and Socialized Anxiety and by reading some of these topics, I now know its called Performance Anxiety. Out of the 20 Years my wife cheated on me 4 or 5 times that i know of. Every time she cheated, it just shot down my self-esteem. I always question myself why she cheated on me and i always think its because of sex,even though sex is great and she said that wasn't the reason. Even though it wasn't the sex i think it was. I'm starting to have erection problems because of all the times she cheated on me. I always start to question myself like am I going to satisfied her or not and will I get a good erection. when we have sex I always try to let her get hers before i get mine. Here lately I have had real bad performance anxiety. I can't get a good erection because my mind wanders about a lot of different things. How do i get over my Performance Anxiety because my wife is leaving again and I cant get an erection at all with another female. I have had a female give me a blow job before and never got an erection but still busted a nut. I want to be able to have sex with other females without worrying about my erection because i love sex. I love getting and giving oral sex and I love toys. I'm always open to something new when it comes to sex. I need my confidence back and how can I get that back?

I know this seems mean. But the issue isn't caused by your wife. It's caused by how you're interpreting her actions. Taking a step back. And unhooking your self esteem from her actions could really help. You genuinely are the same man you always were. Still a stud, when you're not anxious about things. And a tonne of women would be happy to have sex with someone so open minded and fun in bed. It's her loss if she can't commit to you. And, if sex was such an issue for her. She would never have stayed in the marriage for 20 years unless your sexual compatibility was high.

I'd give yourself a little bit of a break here. Ending a marriage takes a lot of time and energy. So it's going to be hard to rush into a new relationship. Let yourself go through the emotions that come up, whatever they are. If you're able to talk to a therapist, counsellor or trusted friend. That can help to process what's going on for you too. Once you're feeling more stable, I think your sex drive will 100% follow.

There is no doubt that permanence anxiety always kills the pleasure of sex. But you can get rid over this problem easily, just approach a professional counselor for the better help. You can recover from this condition naturally.

Find a new girl and have sex with her. It will help you and your esteem wil be better.

You have to forgive and forget or to find a new wife. Anyway, this problem will never let you to relax and to enjoy your sexual life.