ED when with a girl

I am a 20 year old guy, reasonably healthy. Two years ago I lost my virginity with my gf. The first maybe 5 times we had sex I had problems with erection. First it wouldn’t get up, secondly when it did i would lose it while putting on a condom, or even if we started actually doing it I would lose it in the process. Obviously it was psychological, because after a while I got used to her and I haven’t had a problem like this in two years.

Recently we broke up and I’ve been seeing girls at clubs and uni. Many times it would come to having sex, and here comes the problem: I was back at square one. Every single time I couldn’t get an erection just as when I was a virgin.

Has anyone had this kind of experience? I am desperate. Every time I’m making out and were about to have sex all I can think of is “###$, I’m still limp… ###$.. ###$ ###$…” So it really destroyed my confidence.

I really need to know how to overcome this. I get loads of attention from girls so its even more frustrating to have so many opportunities to hook up and not be able to.

Please, Id appreciate any advice. As for vague replies like “try to relax and enjoy the moment” or “get comfortable with her first”, thanks but I need some real advice

1. Tell her. Say up front something "my cock likes to play silly buggers. It's not personal. I hope you like foreplay because I'm REALLY good at it. No hurry." That defuses the pressure. She knows it's not related to her. And you can stay in the moment and focus on what you are doing rather than what it's not doing.

2. Stop trying to hook up. Maybe you're just built to be in a relationship. And bed hopping isn't right for you. There's so much pressure on people to "take their chances" when they come. But it isn't for everyone. And you're not losing out. You're just being picky. Different ways of looking at the same thing.

3. Masturbate with a condom on. Just to get your cock in the habit.

I'm no expert or professional. I don't even have a cock. So I don't know if any of this is useful / helpful.

Hey dude, I understand u. I'm 38 and been with my wife for 20 Years. we separated a lot and she cheated on me a lot. I'm the same way. I'm so used or comfortable with her that if I go to the club and get a hook up. Get back to the house and can't get an erection. I hated because I love sex dude. I hope someone replies something that can help u because I need it too. It really sucks!!!!

Hello there,

I am quite elder than you and i think my ed problem started 4-5 years ago. It was really annoying, i mean you know how it tastes like but you cannot get a bite of it whle it is there in front of you. Then i came accross prolargentsize tablets on internet. They are working very well on me. Plus the results will be permanent after using a while. You can give a try on them.

Good Luck