Advice

Hi there,

I'll jump straight into the problem.

Today, my sister told me that my cousin was being physically abused by her boyfriend. My cousin shared it with her as a secret, I guess to being able to talk to someone else about it. Yet, she asked her not to tell it to anyone.
The secret is not a secret anymore as I know it - and I'm really worried for her safety even though we have not had a great relationship lately. In the past, she accused me of being jealous of her relationship, which I'm not as I have a wonderful partner. But also, we fell out due to other factors.

I really want to open her eyes and have a talk with her so she can get out of this toxic relationship that does not bring her a thing - just being beaten up. She loves him but there are limits to love. That can't be love.

Any advices on what to do, please?
Many thanks.

I would talk to your sister first. It will make their relationship be at a point that your cousin doesn't have anyone to confide in. At least she has her. Tell her what you think and maybe she, herself, can pass it on to her. I just feel if you tell your cousin that you know about her problems, she will not take it well at all. Good luck, as I know it's hard to not be able to do anything for her, but think things through very carefully before acting as there are consequences that will occur. Just my 2c.

Thank you @quietgirl for your answer! I really appreciate it.

I was thinking to do that - but knowing my sister she is not much of help. She is immature and I guess that she can’t handle the situation as best as I could; being older and I believe wiser.
I already told her about the fact that I would be bringing it up to my cousin. Of course, we both believe that there will be retaliation and that she will be cold - but I really believe that it is necessary for her own safety and being.

You're welcome EbonyFlower

You do what you feel is the best decision. Ultimately, it's all up to you in deciding how to handle this dilemma. Keep us updated, if you are able to.