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Postby EbonyFlower » Fri Mar 23, 2018 10:19 pm

Hi there,

I'll jump straight into the problem.

Today, my sister told me that my cousin was being physically abused by her boyfriend. My cousin shared it with her as a secret, I guess to being able to talk to someone else about it. Yet, she asked her not to tell it to anyone.
The secret is not a secret anymore as I know it - and I'm really worried for her safety even though we have not had a great relationship lately. In the past, she accused me of being jealous of her relationship, which I'm not as I have a wonderful partner. But also, we fell out due to other factors.

I really want to open her eyes and have a talk with her so she can get out of this toxic relationship that does not bring her a thing - just being beaten up. She loves him but there are limits to love. That can't be love.

Any advices on what to do, please?
Many thanks.
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Re: Advice

Postby quietgirl2538 » Tue Mar 27, 2018 3:27 pm

I would talk to your sister first. It will make their relationship be at a point that your cousin doesn't have anyone to confide in. At least she has her. Tell her what you think and maybe she, herself, can pass it on to her. I just feel if you tell your cousin that you know about her problems, she will not take it well at all. Good luck, as I know it's hard to not be able to do anything for her, but think things through very carefully before acting as there are consequences that will occur. Just my 2c.
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Re: Advice

Postby EbonyFlower » Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:01 pm

Thank you @quietgirl for your answer! I really appreciate it.

I was thinking to do that - but knowing my sister she is not much of help. She is immature and I guess that she can’t handle the situation as best as I could; being older and I believe wiser.
I already told her about the fact that I would be bringing it up to my cousin. Of course, we both believe that there will be retaliation and that she will be cold - but I really believe that it is necessary for her own safety and being.
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Postby quietgirl2538 » Wed Mar 28, 2018 7:18 pm

You're welcome EbonyFlower :D

You do what you feel is the best decision. Ultimately, it's all up to you in deciding how to handle this dilemma. Keep us updated, if you are able to. :)
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