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hey Welcome. It's nice to have you here

thank you for the welcome, it really feels nice to be noticed.
we were ignored a lot as a kid, alone a lot. I have to try really hard not to expect to be noticed then feels good when I am. When no one seem to respond to me it starts feeling like what I grew up with and I jus want to hide. Only one really notice us when young and he wanted to harm us. At time the mother was good but she was not home that much, at around 5 we were concidered too old to bother with a babysitter.

Becky

Hello Becky and welcome to the forum. It's nice to have another new member here.

Someone recently asked me for clarification about the trigger warning for the roles and I said this:

salted lipstick wrote:It's like if you want to talk about some being protectors, some being "emotional parts" or "apparently normal parts", some being gatekeepers etc etc. that should have a trigger warning because some people's systems might not have those types of roles and so then some people feel like they are "not normal" DID people or get concerned that their system doesn't have that type of structured roles that they might feel bad if they read a post like that and feel like they don't fit in with the roles, that's why it needs a trigger warning...

I think it doesn't so much need a trigger warning if you are talking only about yourselves and the roles within your own system, it only really needs a trigger warning if you are discussing the concepts of roles more generally because then people can feel invalidated if their system doesn't fit that structure... But you can talk about yourselves and what roles you do if you want to without using a trigger warning as most people understand that you are not generalising those roles try to apply to others here also, only to apply to yourselves...

I hope you find it helpful and supportive here... I look forward to getting to know you a little better...

hi salted lipstick

that make sense, I would not generalize anyones system based on ours, I know we pretty different compared to other systems I try real hard to consider how to help someone who no have anyone inside to keep things under control, that is watch the bad alters, keep them inside or keep them from hurting the body. I am the system helper but you have it defined that the ISH is not spose to come out, I out a lot
We have a couple of body protectors but mainly it one that protects us and the others just keep him company Kelly could control his language enough to talk here but Stelth is really scary and her vocabulary, just about every othe word starts with F heehee She will not post here. Robert could be bad but Kelly watches him real close, he probably would not use his name but the talk could become s*xual and none of the rest of us would talk like that, he is the kind most here would be scard of.

Becky

BeckyLuv wrote:thank you for the welcome, it really feels nice to be noticed.
we were ignored a lot as a kid, alone a lot. I have to try really hard not to expect to be noticed then feels good when I am. When no one seem to respond to me it starts feeling like what I grew up with and I jus want to hide. Only one really notice us when young and he wanted to harm us. At time the mother was good but she was not home that much.

I know exactly how you feel. I've been talking about it in one of my threads. But being ignored completely really hurts and I always end up feeling like no one cares enough to notice me

chibixal

I so sorry you have gone thru that negect as well, my heart goes out to you

Becky